How To Stop Overreacting To Your Wife

Published: Mon, 03/03/25

Updated: Mon, 03/03/25

Hey brother,

Fred was arguing with his wife. Again.

He was driving home and thought he would call her to ask if she needed anything from the grocery store. He passed the store 10 minutes ago but thought he could turn around and back track if needed.

The call didn't go as planned.

By the end of it she would call him thoughtless, inconsiderate and disrespectful.

And by the time he arrived home he was worked up into a hot lather and jumped right back into the argument with her.

They both went to bed mad.

Bad day for Fred.

That was Scene One - Take One.

Scene One - Take Two.

Let's put James Bond in the drivers seat to play Fred's role this time. Fred gets to watch from the back seat when James makes the call home.

There is a very different outcome for one very clear reason.

James Bond doesn't take anything personally.

And THAT is why he never needs to argue. What does he do instead? I tell the whole story in this video.

Don't Let the "Tough Guy" Image Fool You

The James Bond metaphor has nothing to do with being tough or aggressive.

Quite the contrary.

Men who don't take everything personally aren't "tough". They are mature and cool headed.

And men who refuse to get into silly and unproductive arguments are not aggressive. They are secure and confident.

But it's not enough to tell a man to just be more mature and cool headed. It's not enough to remind him to be more secure and confident.

If it was that easy everyone would do it.

The seriously "tough men" are the ones honest enough to admit they still get emotionally triggered.

These guys know that being vulnerable about their insecurities with their partners sometimes makes them want to scream like a 13-year-old boy. But instead of blaming others for their overreactions, they have learnt how to OWN their insecurities and become more secure and confident.

That's what I call a "tough guy".

In fact, the smartest, toughest, wisest and happiest men I know are just like you. They read, they share, they give a crap about their brothers and they listen.

They connect with the hearts of others while fearlessly exposing their own. And, oddly, this makes them feel stronger than they have ever been!

I couldn't be more proud to have them - and you - in this community.

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Lotta love,

Steve & Dan

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