How To Handle The Lack Of Physical Affection In Your Marriage

Published: Sat, 03/01/25

Updated: Sat, 03/01/25

Hey brother,

It's 6:30am.

You've been having some sexy dreams...or not.

But still you're waking up with that all too familiar hot rush of desire coursing through your veins. It's undeniable. It's irrepressible.

There is NO going back to sleep.

And you're starting to think how long it's been since you've been touched.

Your mind is racing with opposing forces.

Intense desire. And nagging resentment.

You want to start rubbing her back. You want to be slow and gentle.

You're tentative with the fear of rejection or being rebuffed with an exasperated sigh or criticism. You begin to EXPECT her to move away and judge you harshly.

By now your pulsing desire is fading as intense sadness...and then...anger fills your thoughts.

And now it's 6:35am.

And you're "horngry" as hell.

Similar to being "hangry" (hunger driven anger), we may feel "horngry" when we experience anger as a result of intense sexual desire.

Most men first coming into the GG2GM community forums know exactly what I'm talking about.

They use phrases like, "Another crappy morning...I need help!" or "I lost my sh*t tonight...I need to stop this!"

But let's be honest with each other here. We both know your anger isn't simply about being horny. It's about much more.

I explain this more deeply in this video.

How To Handle The Lack Of Physical Affection In Your Marriage

Here's the REAL Issue

First, I won't try to tell you that sex is unimportant.

I will not try tell you it's wrong to be a passionate, sexual man with a healthy, hot-blooded sex drive.

And I won't try to convince you to stop desiring an emotionally intimate and physically sexual relationship.

I don't believe any of those things are true or necessary.

I know rejection hurts.

I know how it feels to be treated like a monster for just wanting a kiss goodnight.

And I know how intense those 6:30am mind monkeys can be as they spin you into an angry lather before you know it.

But the problem really isn't what SHE is thinking about you.

It's what YOU are thinking about you.

It's not just that we believe we're seen as an unattractive, undesirable and unlovable person...it's that we believe it just might be true.

We don't help men by letting them blame women for not wanting sex.

We don't help men by telling them to lower their expectations.

And we don't help men by telling them their desires are wrong.

We help you by connecting you with a much deeper sense of personal value, sexual healthiness and emotional confidence.

We directly address the secret fear and shameful suspicion that you just might actually be unattractive, undesirable or unlovable.

Spoiler alert...You're not. You're actually just fine.

And it's critically important for you to understand that and WHY your brain has been tricked into thinking so.

Once you flip this switch in your head, you instantly feel calmer.

Less reactive. Less resentful.

Less "horngry".

THIS is where you want to be so you can get to the next step of your growth. It's insanely liberating.

Learning how to manage "horngriness" is one the most important keys to improving your self-respect, self-confidence and overall ATTRACTIVENESS in every sense of the word.

If you're a man who wants to have that, I want to invite you into our tribe. It's the best place for a man who wants to find a more CONSISTENT STATE OF CONFIDENCE and more SEXUAL SELF-RESPECT.

One thing we can guarantee is that the men we coach end up with a life filled with the kind of connection and affection they want.

We help you to drop the frustration and learn how to CREATE a life filled with intimacy. Below are some options you can get started with today:

$149 One-Time Payment: The Goodguy2Greatmen 3-Step Emergency Triage for You AND Your Marriage - if you need an instant change in your life and relationship Dan and I created our most powerful short course to help you start feeling more calm and confident and to know what actions to take to start changing your circumstances.

Free: If you're serious about building your masculine mojo then apply for a coaching call with us we will help you identify what to focus on and what to avoid to get you feeling confident again.

What do I mean by "SERIOUS"?

We take YOU and your struggles seriously...because we've been there
We know a lack of physical affection in your marriage is serious
And we know a lack of clarity about how to change it is serious now and for your long term future happiness
We believe your personal emotional strength and well-being is serious
We seriously show up 110% to our conversations with you and expect you to be as serious as we are about changing your life

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As Teddy Roosevelt said:

“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.”

Lotta love,

Steve & Dan

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