How to Feel Okay...even when your marriage feels totally NOT OKAY!

Published: Thu, 02/20/25

Updated: Thu, 02/20/25

Hey brother,

Anxiety.

Uncertainty. Nervous, tense, defensive, guarded...walking on eggshells...ready to fight or flee...not sure which.

That's what it's like for ME to feel NOT OKAY.

Can you relate?

It's funny, though. Most men feel mostly OKAY most of time for most of the day.

At work...okay. With friends...okay. With kids...okay. Driving home...okay (except for the assholes).

But one thing we know for sure is that a struggling romantic relationship with a woman is every man's Kryptonite.

There can be an ever-present sense of NOT OKAYNESS...usually instigated by HER lack of OKAYNESS.

Why do we do that? Why do we so firmly attach our sense of peace and confidence to the emotional state of the woman we live with?

Is it REALLY true that when "Momma's not happy, nobody can be happy?"

No. It's not true. Something else is true.

The truth is all men have the ability to find peace, emotional strength and confidence even when faced with an unhappy wife. This is a place of thought...a realization...and then a reality.

And if you don't know how to find that place quickly, you'll constantly feel nervous, tense, defensive, guarded...walking on eggshells...ready to fight or flee...not sure which.

Just like a horse has his way of returning to OKAYNESS, you must learn how to do the same for yourself. I made a quick video to talk about how horses do it.

Every man who returns home from our Confident Man Ranch Retreat comes home with a new super power.

It's the power to self-regulate his anxiety.
It's the power to remain self-aware and choose calm responses instead of knee-jerk reactions.
And it's the power to see what's really happening in the emotions of other people from a place of calm, confident empathy.

And that is like MAGIC.

Do you want that?

The next Confident Man Ranch Retreat is on May 25th-28th this year.

I want you to consider doing something outrageous. Something totally off the board. Something unexpected and possibly a little "selfish".

I want you to give yourself the PERFECT opportunity to be around men like you...to BECOME a calm, confident, and emotionally courageous man.

This is our 14th Ranch Retreat at Sylvan Dale Ranch in Loveland, Colorado. And we know one thing for sure about this retreat.

It permanently changes you. It changes your sense of self-respect. It changes your sense of purpose. It changes your style of leadership.

It changes your life the moment you return home and walk in the door.

Why? How?

Because YOU change your view of yourself. You change your perspective about your wife and marriage. You change the way you THINK and RESPOND to everything...including your "Not Okay" wife.

You end up TAKING THIS MINDSET BACK TO YOUR REALITY. And then your "reality" actually changes.

If you are ready for that, it's time to save your spot for this May's retreat. Spaces go fast.

If you would like a 20 minute chat with me to talk about whether or not this is for you, just hit reply now and ask me.

Click on the link below to reserve your spot with a deposit.

The pictures on this page are amazing!

The May 2025 Confident Man Ranch Retreat in Loveland, Colorado

Lotta love, brother,

Steve

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550 Drake Ranch Rd., Livermore, CO 80536, USA

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