The Worst Time To Ask For Sex (And Why You Nearly Always Get Rejected)

Published: Thu, 10/24/24

Updated: Thu, 10/24/24

Hey brother,

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This email may piss off a few people...but I don't care.

Tough love is hard to swallow and I've had to swallow my fair share.

When is the BEST time to ask a woman for sex?

Answer: When you don't NEED it.

The worst time to ask for a job, a loan, a date or sex is when you desperately think you NEED it. People smell this a mile away and it shows up in your eyes, your voice, your body and even the muscles in your jaw.

Too simple you say? I think not.

This is a UNIVERSAL principle that applies in nearly every facet of life, business and relationships.

If you are pursuing something with an underlying fear, insecurity or dependence on an outcome you are virtually assured of not getting it.

And even if you do, you probably won't enjoy it.

Obligation sex anyone? Yeah, it's much worse than no sex at all.

So, what's the answer?

Learn how to become "rejection proof".

This means we must learn to become more OUTCOME INDEPENDENT in our pursuit of the things we want.

When we detach from getting a "Yes" and rewire our brain to no longer fear rejection, everything we want is a little easier to get.

Watch this video because I dive deeper into this counter-intuitive phenomenon

The Worst Time To Ask For Sex (And Why You Nearly Always Get Rejected)

How do you learn to not FEAR REJECTION?

One of the most important things I coach men through is their fear of rejection.

Why is this so important?

Because fear paralyzes us. Fear hurts. Rejection can feel like a kick in the nuts when you are thinking about it the wrong way.

But...rejection is almost never ALL ABOUT YOU.

When you begin to realize the reasons people say "No", you can easily detach from the rejection and not take it personally.

And when you learn the psychology behind a person's "No", you can feel empowered and emboldened to ask for what you want without fear.

Yes, even in the bedroom.

The result is a feeling of liberation from the anxiety, resentment and anger that often accompanies an outcome dependent mindset. Calm confidence takes the place of that knot in your gut. And that feels amazing.

This is EXACTLY what you will develop if you decide to do the work.

Most guys won't choose to do the work until the pain of living their life as they are now is GREATER than the fear of looking inside themselves.

I promise you...it's not that scary in there. Here's what one guy just sent me about that.

"I continue to find it interesting how (these concepts) become a reality for me. I see it as a process, first with agreeing with it, then thinking you are living it, then living it a little, then finally you realize a point of 100% of being it. It is such a drastic feeling, calm peaceful, lacking nervousness about it. The concept I have just 100% welcomed is that of not having expectations or expected outcomes. So interesting how the blast of clarity comes right through us."

We've created an powerfully EFFECTIVE coaching experience for you that promises to give you the calm, confident, peaceful mojo you want.

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What do I mean by "SERIOUS"?

We take YOU and your struggles seriously...because we've been there
We know a lack of intimacy and sex in your relationship is serious
And we know that feeling fearful, unloved and a lack of clarity about what to do next is serious now and for your long term future happiness
We believe your personal emotional strength and well-being is serious
We seriously show up 110% to our conversations with you and expect you to be as serious as we are about changing your life

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As Teddy Roosevelt said:

“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.”

Lotta love,

Steve & Dan

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