How To Get What You Want Especially If You Really Really Want It

Published: Wed, 10/23/24

Updated: Wed, 10/23/24

Hey brother,

There's this unbelievable vacation spot I'm in love with.

It’s a remote guesthouse set on the side of a cliff above a beautiful Mexican beach. The food is amazing, the weather is perfect and the people are so friendly.

You can grab an early morning coffee and go for a walk taking in the spectacular views, take time out to read, think, journal and chat with the other men or join up with someone to get in some exercise and start your day off just right.

At night, I like to hang out with friends round the fire, watch the sunset. Music plays in the background while we talk about anything and everything and laugh our asses off as you try some mind blowing margaritas.

All you have to do is get yourself to Puerto Vallarta in February. We’re waiting to meet you. There's one bedroom not yet spoken for...that is, if you're interested in a place like that.

What did I just do there?

I made you an offer. I gave you an invitation to something I personally love.

It's something Tim and I are doing with or without you because going there is not negotiable for us. But...it would be pretty cool if you could come along too.

I'm unattached to your answer because you gotta do whatever you gotta do. And there are many other people I can invite...people who really love the same stuff as I do. I don't need to set expectations for you - make any rules - or beg you to come.

It's simply an offer to join me in my already amazing plans.

The whole energy of that invitation describes who I am, what I want and where I'm going.

It is impossible to create the life and relationship you want if you don't know who you are, what you want or where you're going.

When I made my "Why You Need to Stop Chasing Women" video a year ago, some guys got the wrong idea.

They thought I was saying you must stop chasing women all together.

No. That's not it.

I want you to stop chasing attention, affection and approval and find that confident, amazing, independent man inside you.

Whether you're single, married or in a committed relationship it's THAT guy who can make invitations and offers instead of begging, controlling or complaining his way to the life he wants.

Watch this video to learn more.

How To Get What You Want Especially If You Really Really Want It

What would your offer sound like?

What kind of plans do you have for your next 30 years?

What are you passionate about experiencing?

What kinds of interactions and conversations do you have that just light you up?

It's the answers to questions like those which can form the basis of the invitations you make.

Do you love deeper, more vulnerable and more connected conversations?

How could you make an invitation for that?

Who do you know who loves that too?

Do you have a passion for surprise and adventure?

What plans do you have to create that?

Who do you want to invite without expectations?

What are you willing to do no matter who comes along with you?

I know...you've got a lot of "yeah buts" up your sleeve right now.

What if she says no?

What if she always says no?

What if I want things she doesn't want?

What if my living into my passion ends up driving her away?

Good questions!

I'm not going to answer them for you.

I want you to think about it and come up with your own answers.

Think about the greatest men you know or have read about. Think about how they would answer those questions.

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By the way, about that magical place I mentioned in the beginning of this email...it's real.

There's been a lot of demand for my retreats this year and guys are always asking when the next one is coming up.

So that's why Dan, Tim and I are always coming up with new ideas to get some amazing initiated men together again - men who have walked this path and can show you to fastest way to get where you want to go.

Our upcoming Mexico Retreat is geared to the man who is ready to change his future.

Join Tim and I with some amazing men. Incredible conversations. Relaxation and laughter. Great food. Life changing insights. Oh...and some pretty cool hikes and views too!

And that's just a start.

Here's what one guy said about last year's retreat:

“It was an opportunity for me to practice being vulnerable, connecting with like minded men, facing some internal fears, and just learning to be present for the life that’s unfolding right in front of me. It was also good food , conversations and laughs, beautiful walks, and a gift to myself of a little time to unwind and get a new perspective and direction.”

Reserve your place here >>

If you want a more passionate life and relationships, then you need to learn how to be the kind of passionate man who CREATES those things.

And if you're unsure what to do for your unique situation...talk to us.

We give every man who gets in touch with us a free 90 minute conversation. No sales pitch, no agenda, just a real man-to-man conversation about what you want and what's holding you back from being confident in making it happen.

Free: If you're serious about building your masculine mojo then apply for a coaching call with us we will help you identify what to focus on and what to avoid to get you feeling confident again.

What do I mean by "SERIOUS"?

We take YOU and your struggles seriously...because we've been there
We know a lack of passion and mojo is serious
And we know that a lack of clarity about what to do next is serious now and for your long term future happiness
We believe your personal emotional strength and well-being is serious
We seriously show up 110% to our conversations with you and expect you to be as serious as we are about changing your life

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As Teddy Roosevelt said:

“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.”

Lotta love,

Steve & Dan

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