First, I want to invite you to our group coaching call this Thursday at 12pm mountain time, the topic of the call is "How to Deal with Your Resentment"
In this call we will address:
How to think about your own thoughts about "fairness" and "injustice"
How to know what issues require a clear, firm response and which ones require simple, loving
acceptance
How to create better "stories" about what others are "doing to you"
How to be happier even when
someone else is projecting their unhappiness on you
We're going to have a great conversation that's guaranteed to help you feel more clear and more connected to the man you want to be.
If this call sounds interesting to you, join our Men's Roundtable here.(You'll also gain access to 5 years of recorded previous group coaching sessions and our private Facebook community).Now onto today's newsletter...
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One way to get unconditional love and affection and to be given god-like status is to pay for it.
There are women who make a very good living of it. They will forgive you all of
your misgivings, ignore all of your bad habits and will give you everything you want without argument or hesitation.
And, hey, I don't judge you if you go that route. Another way to get unconditional love is to get a dog. They too are incredibly devoted and forgiving. As a predator, they don't operate from fear,
distrust and suspicion.
But the women in your real relationships are different, aren't they? If you want a real relationship with a woman, there's more work to do. If you want easy affection, natural attraction and intimate connection...you have to be more mindful of WHO you are being and HOW you are
being.
Women seem to have this unspoken sensitivity to who we are being and how we are treating them. They sometimes claim we can "make them feel" things and go so far as to believe that we can "make them happy".
I don't believe anyone has the power to "make" someone else happy. Happiness always has been and always will be an "inside job".
However, I do believe that two people in a relationship can DEFINITELY create an environment that is either ripe for love and
affection -OR- an environment that is ripe for fear, distrust and suspicion.
As you know, I teach men their part in being MINDFUL and AWARE of how they are BEING as a man.
I emphasize that being who you want to be on YOUR terms - according to YOUR standards is your top priority.
Why? Because if the only reason you choose to become mindful and aware of how you are being is to be loved...you're pretty much screwed in life.
You'll be operating from insecurity and fear. You will feel desperate, needy and constantly on the look-out for respect and approval from others.
You will never feel
more at peace (and have LESS DRAMA) as when you develop a crystal clear sense of self-confidence and learn to approve of your own bad self.
Watch this video for more details.
