How Stop Walking On Eggshells Around Your Wife

Published: Wed, 12/18/24

Updated: Wed, 12/18/24

Hey brother,

First, I want to invite you to our group coaching call this Thursday, 19th December at 12pm mountain time, the topic of the call is "But Aren't I ALLOWED to Have EXPECTATIONS??".

This is one the most popular questions we get from men.

Another version is: "Isn't SHE Supposed to Uphold Her Vows and Give Me What I Expect?"

In this call we will address:

What's the difference between an "expectation" and a "desire"?

How do we communicate what we WANT without the negative pressure of UNMET EXPECTATIONS?

How clear are you about the life you expect to create for yourself...even if others aren't meeting your expectations?

Why expressing a story of desire and living in your values is more attractive than declaring your expectations.

We're going to have a great conversation that's guaranteed to help you feel more clear and more connected to the man you want to be.

If this call sounds interesting to you, join our Men's Roundtable here.
(You'll also gain access to 5 years of recorded previous group coaching sessions and our private Facebook community).

Now onto today's newsletter...

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The holiday season can be brutal for everyone.

I don't need to list all the irregular crap couples have to endure throughout the season. You know about the stress of the expenses, expectations, travel and unruly relatives.

Many men cringe at all of the drama and don't know how to cope. It seems the safest route is to just follow orders and try to make everyone happy.

But the "safest" route of trying to "make your wife happy" is probably the most ineffective and aggravating energy you could possibly have.

You feel like you're treading on eggshells waiting for orders.

You find yourself apologizing and asking for permission or direction for making her more happy.

The dirty little secret you have is that you need her to be happy with you.

I want to offer you another mantra.

Instead of "If Momma Ain't Happy, Ain't Nobody Happy", try this on.

"If Daddy Ain't Happy He Needs Get His Shit Together Because Nobody Else Can Make Him Happy...and if He's Not Happy Then His Whole World Appears Unhappy and He Will Think His Life Sucks"

I explain this concept and HOW TO STAY IN YOUR LANE in this 4 minute video.

How Stop Walking On Eggshells Around Your Wife

What if Daddy Ain't Happy?

I coach men about the idea of being the "emotional weatherman" for their family and for themselves.

This means YOU get to decide if the day is going to be emotionally "sunny", "partly cloudy", or "full of shit storms".

The critical life skill every man needs is to define his OWN emotional weather pattern. He does this consciously as he rolls out of bed every single day.

And he does this deliberately with HOW HE RESPONDS to the weather he sees in others.

He must "stay in his lane" if he wants to be a positive influence on anyone else.

And when he finds that some people are just having a "shit storm" day he knows that he doesn't need to have one too.

When the masculine emotional energy in your house is strong, confident, happy, consistent and predictable you will start to see AMAZING changes around you.

Others will want to be in that lane with you. You will be magnetic.

And you will start to see:

"If Daddy Doesn't Stay in His Lane He Will End Up in Someone Else's Lane and He Will Hate That."

There is ONLY ONE WAY for your masculine emotional energy to become strong, confident, happy, consistent and predictable.

And it is NOT by seeking direction, approval and permission from "momma".

It happens when you proactively choose to spend time with men who are already driving in that lane.

It happens when you decide that lane is for you and nothing will keep you from getting there.

There are so many things to know about your own insecure triggers...your own anger...and you're own immature reactions. (I've driven in those lanes...no fun at all.)

There is so much to know about the emotional world of women and their incessant mind monkey chatter and internal shame triggers.

Once you start learning this stuff you will feel a rush of relief and competence in handling your own happiness.

I was going to put in a testimonial next, but 3 minutes ago a guy commented on one of my recent videos, he said...

Well said Steve. My wife started coming back to me just like you had said. Now good days and bad days sometimes, but your right. SO WHAT?!

What he has learned is that when he stays in his happy, positive, confident lane...everyone, including his wife, wants to be there too.

We've created many options for you to get this knowledge and support so you can be consistent and really, really LIKE YOURSELF as you're doing the work.

The next step for you is to make a courageous, no nonsense decision to connect with me and my coaches to start 2025 off with a bang.

If you want to get serious in 2025 about becoming that man, we want to speak with you personally.

We want to spend at least an hour at first to hear your voice, learn about your dreams and coach you through some of the barriers in front of you.

On this call we can offer you immediate tips to help you feel calmer...cooler...and more relaxed and measured in your emotions.

We can give you details about the options you have to transform yourself and your intimate relationship.

At the end of the call we fully expect you to say what other men have said.

"Damn, this felt better than this last year of therapy! I can't believe someone really listened to me, understands exactly who I am, knows personally what I'm struggling with in life right now and gave me simple, practical advice on how to create the future I really want!".

How do you set up this call?

Simple.

Free: If you're serious about building your masculine mojo then apply for a coaching call with us we will help you identify what to focus on and what to avoid to get you feeling confident again.

What do I mean by "SERIOUS"?

We take YOU and your struggles seriously...because we've been there
We know not feeling relaxed and confident around your wife is serious
And we know a lack of clarity about how to change it is serious now and for your long term future happiness
We believe your personal emotional strength and well-being is serious
We seriously show up 110% to our conversations with you and expect you to be as serious as we are about changing your life

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As Teddy Roosevelt said:

“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.”

Lotta love,

Steve & Dan

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