Why Your "Relationship Farts" Stink Like Divorce

Published: Sun, 12/08/24

Updated: Sun, 12/08/24

Hey brother,

Relationships are like farting. If you push too hard things could get messy real fast. ~ Kevin Hart

You know me and my metaphors. I love this one.

You know those "silent but deadly farts" you and your brother giggled about for hours? Yeah?

Well there's an equivalent kind of "fart" in every relationship.

It's the silent, unspoken, curiously nasty smell of secret "disapproval, disappointment and dissatisfaction."

If one or more people in a relationship are holding the smoldering hot gases of disapproval, disappointment or dissatisfaction, you can bet it is silently hissing out of their pores.

YOU think you're clever. But everyone can smell it. And the wind is coming from your direction.

Why is this a "divorce predictor"?

Because it falls under the category of "judgment and contempt".

Gottman research shows an amazingly strong correlation between relationship farts and impending divorce.

I don't need to explain it to you. I think you know exactly what it smells like if your wife is oozing that nasty gas

And you hate it, don't you? Makes you want to fart back doesn't it? Makes you want to start a "fart war".

Don't do it.

What if you knew how to not only suppress your farts, but how to change your THINKING so the fart doesn't form in the first place?

I did a podcast recently with my friend and colleague Shana James who also works mostly with men in relationships with women.

We had a blast in this conversation. Let me know if you learn anything new or helpful.

Here's what we cover:

The havoc insecurity wreaks on dates and relationships, and how to create secure bonds
Covert contracts – the transactional idea that if you do what someone else wants, they’ll give you what you want
The lack of male role models in love
The poison of expectation, entitlement, judgment, pressure, and resentment
The story of Steve’s coach telling him: “You’re not yet the kind of guy who gets to have more sex and intimacy”
What to do when someone doesn’t feel valued or loved
The ineffectiveness of competition, trying to fix someone, and trying to get needs met
The power of a mature relationship where compassion, empathy and understanding goes both ways
How feelings of belonging, vulnerability, and being understood, seen, valued and heard, create incredibly sexy experiences
The shift from disappointment, disapproval, and dissatisfaction to acceptance, approval, and admiration
The power of your mind to create more love
A new way to think about confidence and security

Are you ready to become the master of your Fart Domain?

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As Teddy Roosevelt said:

“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.”

Lotta love,

Steve & Dan

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