How To Stop Making Decisions You Regret

Published: Wed, 12/04/24

Updated: Wed, 12/04/24

Hey brother,

First, I want to invite you to our group coaching call this Thursday, 5th December at 12pm mountain time, the topic of the call is "What to Do and How to THINK About All Those OTHER Women?"

In this call we will address the other women in your life taking up your time, attention and energy:

Yeah, we all know you NOTICE them...why is that?
Grocery store women
Work women
Bar women
Porn women
Old girlfriend women
The women next door
The women in your fantasies

How does your energy and your intention toward your marriage fluctuate with the distraction of other women?

Does your wife even know? (spoiler alert...yep)

Are there healthier ways to live with all these other women?

We're going to have a great conversation that's guaranteed to help you feel more clear and more connected to the man you want to be.

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Now onto today's newsletter...

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Each year I climb up a ladder to make a video for you (and myself, to be honest).

It's my Annual Hummingbird Husband video and, this year, I've added something new.

You see, I've always compared the hummingbird to the nervous, jittery and needy energy us men can have when faced with a distant, disconnected and/or angry woman.

I've explained how the mountain lion is the opposite of the hummingbird in his cool, calm, confident and STEADY energy.

In this video, I explain it a new way.

Enter the TORTOISE.

In his proverbial race with the HARE the tortoise is shown to be plodding along without any sense of urgency or concern.

The hare, on the other hand, is racing ahead, getting distracted and generally having an annoying impatient, urgent and frantic energy.

The hare and the hummingbird are cousins. They thrive on chaos and anxiety. And they both exude a general lack of focus and composure.

If you look closely, you'll see the tortoise has a slight grin on his face. He knows something. And he's perfectly okay staying in his lane.

Dan Dore and I were sharing a pint (or two) in England last week and we were laughing about how the tortoise is a great symbol of the calm, deliberate and pleased energy that makes up healthy, mature masculinity.

We even decided that if we open a pub together, it will be named The Smirking Turtle.

Anyway, take a look at the video and this year's hummingbird message.

Tortoises can tell you more about the road than hares. ~ Khalil Gibran

This message is about the wisdom in slowing down. It's about being more PRESENT and really seeing what's going on around you.

It's about slowing down your THINKING. And when you can slow down your thinking, you have time to think about all those crazy THOUGHTS that are trying to make you anxious.

The tortoise metaphor is about staying in a frame of "profound well-being".

Of course, it sometimes makes sense to move swiftly and make decisions quickly. But with the wisdom of the tortoise, you will take those actions and make those decisions with a smirk on your face.

The key here is that anxiety, uncertainty and urgency are optional.

And when a man get this, he moves in such clear, deliberate steps it appears like he's flying.

If you're a man who wants to feel a "profound sense of well-being", then you're in the right place.

We teach men every day how to think clearly, feel deeply and move deliberately and confidently.

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We know living in limboland is serious
And we know a lack of clarity about how to change it is serious now and for your long term future happiness
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As Teddy Roosevelt said:

“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.”

Lotta love,

Steve & Dan

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