"Ironically, men are often pressured (by women) to open up and talk about their feelings, and they are criticized for being emotionally walled-off; but if they get too real, they are met with revulsion." ~ Brene Brown
Brown recalled the first time she realized
she had been complicit in the shaming and she said, Holy Shit! I am the patriarchy!
What do you do with this information?
I can see only ONE conclusion and it's the same one I came to in 2012.
Dude...I need to up my game. I need better men in my life. I need men with the same depth of feeling, thought and passion I feel inside myself!
If it's true that we are the average of the 5 men we hang around most, then some of us need to seriously "up
our average". This means adding new people in your life and possibly removing others to make some room.
It's tough to do this, I know. I discontinued about 5 long time relationships to make room for a MUCH HIGHER AVERAGE.
The over-drinking, the over-eating, the same boring parties and the mind-numbing conversations had to
stop. So I did. Cold turkey.
You can too. You must.
It would be pretty shitty of me to give you such advice without a suggestion on HOW to get started.
Quite selfishly I created a local men's group in Fort
Collins just so I had
LOCAL high quality men to hang with each month. I need these guys. I count on them and they count on me.
In partnership with Dan Dore we created a regular online men's gathering in the Men's Roundtable so even if you're not local to me in Colorado or Dan in England, you can access the support and accountability you need.
Tim Wade and I created the Confident Man Ranch Retreat in Loveland, Colorado which is a mind-blowing time on a beautiful mountain ranch, incredible horseback rides and transformational coaching. This is a guaranteed game changer for men in struggling
relationships.
Why have we created SO MANY OPTIONS?
Because we are selfish bastards, that's why :) unapologetically.
We do this for ourselves to help us stay sharp. We're just inviting you along for the ride!
So what about you?
Are you ready yet to move into something a little different to shake up the current trajectory of
your life?
All progress and growth comes from moving into discomfort. Funny thing is that it's never as uncomfortable as you think. And once you get started it's impossible to stop.