Sometimes I'm just
being a dick.
I can't always see it coming and when I least expect it, there I am...being a dick.
It happens to a lot of us - even women. (yeah, they can be dicks too!)
But I'm getting better and better at seeing the "dicky side" of myself before he
gets out of hand. (no pun intended, really)
I'm talking about that slightly angry, irritated, offended or insulted part of me that just wants to "get back" at someone for pissing me off.
That's the hardest "dickyness" to prevent. It comes out of nowhere like a reflex...like a knee-jerk
reaction.
The "slow build dickyness" is a little easier to spot and prevent because you can learn to recognize the pattern.
One sure thing about being a dick in my relationship is this.
It never makes things better. It always results in more silence. More distance. More resentment.
And the OPPOSITE of being a dick always results in more connection. More play. And more intimacy.
Jeez, you'd think it would be so easy to just not be a dick!
But, it's not. You have to have some advanced knowledge and advanced self-awareness to be able to observe yourself before it
happens.
And you know what's happening a LOT lately?
Run-of-the-mill dickyness is getting labeled as NARCISSISM.
If fact, most of my own dickish behavior is NOT narcissism...but it "smells" like it. Neither one is desirable, but one is much more serious than the
other.
This where the confusion sets in.
What the hell is the difference between good ol' dickish behavior and genuine Narcissistic Personality Disorder?
Have YOU ever been called a narcissist?
Do you want to get advanced knowledge and advanced self-awareness about this
popular accusation?
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