Do you ever worry
that you could be "let go" from your job as husband at any moment?
What would you do if that happened? What would you THINK?
Do you sometimes have an
"employee" mindset in your relationship?
This is the main source of discomfort and insecurity for way too many men.
If you look at the "position" of husband from the mindset of an employee you will adopt the bad behaviors of a man who feels like a second class citizen in his own
home.
And THAT will destroy a marriage faster than anything else I can think of.
Let me give you an example of two men. Bill and Bob are electricians working in the same company.
Bill views himself as an employee - a man who is a common commodity. He feels like a man with very limited options
These are the daily thoughts in Bill's
mind:
My work will only be as good as how I feel I'm being
treated...and no better.
I'll try only as
hard as I feel my employer is trying.
I feel insecure about my employment because I fear what my boss thinks about me.
I get angry and unhappy every time I think they disrespect me or criticize me or my work.
I hate Mondays. I LOVE Fridays. And I live for payday!
On the other hand, Bob views himself as an entrepreneur - a man of unequaled value. He feels like a man with many options.
These are the daily thoughts in Bob's mind:
I will be the best electrician I can be.
I make my growth and security a priority by becoming more valuable every day...no matter what my employer is doing.
I'm secure in my value and employability because I know my value and I don't
worry about what others think about me. I can work anywhere.
I'm a happy electrician because I choose to be...regardless of the opinion or actions of others.
I'm grateful every day I wake up. Payday is something that results from me staying in my lane and being the best electrician possible.
Watch this video for a deeper look into this mindset and how it applies to you as a husband. Translation: "Payday = Sex" in this
video.
