“P.S. You’re not going to die. Here’s the white-hot truth: if you go bankrupt, you’ll still be okay. If you lose the gig, the lover, the house, you’ll still be okay. If you sing off-key, get beat by the competition, have your heart
shattered, get fired…it’s not going to kill you. Ask anyone who’s been through it.” ~ Danielle LaPorte
One of my favorite reassurances for anxious men is, "You're not only going to be okay...you're already okay but you can't see it right
now."
It's the level of our THINKING that determines our level of "okayness" at any given moment.
Circumstances are just, well,
circumstances. WE get to decided what meaning to give them and how we will respond to them.
And when we've been living our life in the microcosm of husband/father/provider everything looks scary. We don't have a larger concept of our life - our purpose - our mission.
Living small makes change look terrifying. And living out of integrity with your authentic self and your core value leads to dark places.
“If you trade your authenticity for safety, you may
experience the following: anxiety, depression, eating disorders, addiction, rage, blame, resentment, and inexplicable grief.” ~ Brene Brown
I can't overstate the importance of having a mission that lights you up.
Something that allows you to express your deepest passions and
zone of genius keeps you authentic. Feeling "lit up" is the experience of being totally aligned with your non-negotiable values and terms for living the life YOU want.
But don't worry about "finding" it immediately.
What if you simply made your current MISSION a dedicated process of finding your mission?
That's probably a really great start for most of us.
And for many of the men in my community, that's exactly what they're doing. I've noticed that for each man new doors are opening. New ideas. New opportunities.
They are calmer, happier, more confident, more connected and unapologetically honest and
vulnerable.
That's exactly what a mission can do for you.
If you're still "looking for your mission", I suggest getting involved with other mature, initiated
men doing the same work.
I created this community as part of my mission and love to share with anyone who wants to play.
