How To Stop Feeling Anxious About Your Marriage

Published: Thu, 11/14/24

Updated: Sat, 11/16/24

Hey brother,

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Alison has studied men and women in relationship with each other for 30 years and brings a refreshingly honest, direct and practical approach to understanding what men and women need from each other in marriage and long term relationships.

Find out, from a woman's perspective, how we create disconnection and how to change that so you begin to create a more calm, connected, happy and intimate relationship again.

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Now onto today's newsletter...

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Sometimes we get our best ideas at the most awkward times...like on the toilet.

There I was, reading an old issue of Rolling Stones magazine and an interview with the late Glenn Frey of the band The Eagles. My favorite band of all time, by the way.

Anyway, I read a quote he made during an interview and it gave me a flash of insight - an idea - and there was no pen in sight.

The interviewer commented how amazing it was that the band could so closely reproduce in live concert the perfect vocal harmonies and instrumentation they achieved on their records.

Glenn said, "Yeah, with so many variables you can't control everything...but we do control everything we can. It's good knowing the worst we'll ever be is great."

I love that! The worst we'll ever be is great.

That's going to be the title of my next book.

"The Worst You'll Ever Be Is Great"

Subtitle: "How to be consistently calm, confident and happy by controlling the only thing that really matters."

I made this fake cover just to tell "the universe" I'm freakin' serious about this. Sometime you gotta do stuff like that when you're inspired and need to make yourself commit to action.

The book will be about the critical importance of seeing yourself as the commander of your own thoughts and responses to negative circumstances. It will also explain how to achieve true "outcome independence" without being a total ass.

That's actually all the control you will ever need.

Once a man get this, he sees EXTERNAL VARIABLES as just that - things he can't control, therefore, he is free to LET THEM GO.

More about that in this video.

How To Stop Feeling Anxious About Your Marriage

It's the path from feeling like a victim to being a creator of your own reality.

I've got about 1000 quotes from guys like you to add in the book.

Like this one that came in yesterday:

"I absolutely crushed a job interview for a position in D.C. I was confident, well-spoken and relaxed as I handled every curve ball they threw at me and never stuttered, stumbled or flinched. It felt like the old me busting through and I would be surprised if an offer doesn't come next week. I'm excited about it because it's a chance to go back to my playground and do what I do best! I'm more confident than ever, Steve, and whatever happens with this I know it's going to be fine."

There is no reason whatsoever, no matter how you feel now and no matter what ANYONE else says or does...that you can't achieve this level of confidence, happiness and optimism about your current state AND your future.

It all starts with owning your thoughts and your responses.

You can only LEARN this stuff from other men who have gone before you. All you have to do is get inspired and then commit to taking action.

Free: If you're serious about building your masculine mojo then apply for a coaching call with us we will help you identify what to focus on and what to avoid to get you feeling confident again.

What do I mean by "SERIOUS"?

We take YOU and your struggles seriously...because we've been there
We know feeling anxious about your relationship is serious
And we know a lack of clarity about how to change it is serious now and for your long term future happiness
We believe your personal emotional strength and well-being is serious
We seriously show up 110% to our conversations with you and expect you to be as serious as we are about changing your life

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As Teddy Roosevelt said:

“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.”

Lotta love,

Steve & Dan

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