How to Stop "We-ing" and "Should-ing" on Your Wife

Published: Sun, 08/04/24

Updated: Sun, 08/04/24

Hey brother,

Decades ago when I was in corporate America I attended a leadership training class.

The instructor opened with a joke.

"Studies have shown that the least liked and least effective leaders use these two words too often...WE and SHOULD".

As in, "We are a team!" and "We are winners!" and "We are the best at what we do!"

And, "You should always been continuously improving." and "You should align your personal mission with our vision."...and so on.

The survey concluded, "Employees hate it when managers WE on them and SHOULD on them."

That's what this video is all about.

Except I'm replacing the word "employee" with your "wife/girlfriend".

Enjoy this 4-minutes of me telling you how you "could" think and respond differently. Yeah, I'm gonna "should on you" for just a bit...with love

How to Stop "We-ing" and "Should-ing" on Your Wife

How much have you been We-ing and Should-ing on her?

If you're like most of us, you are used to getting to the bottom of things quickly.

You troubleshoot, analyze, fiddle and figure out anything or anything that is getting in your way. (That's me too)

And when your wife/girlfriend presents you with a "problem", you may then see HER as a problem and HER behavior as something needing fixing immediately.

After all these years, I can tell you that grasping for logical solutions and demanding rational explanations will plant you firmly on her AVOID AT ALL COSTS list.

You might say...and you will..."Well, shouldn't I expect her to have some level of common decency...recognized normalcy...and a level of respect that ANYONE should give at a time like this??!!"

Yeah...did you just hear yourself? If that's something you've been thinking or saying out loud, I'm thinking it's time you talked with someone.

There's a better way. And you will feel calmer, less offended, more confident and clear headed than ever. You might even grin.

If you’re not currently showing up – consistently – with a strong sense of confidence, happiness and an occasional grin, you’ve got some work to do.

This is the work men do only with other men. I’ve committed my life to it and to you.

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As Teddy Roosevelt said:

“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.”

Lotta love,

Steve & Dan

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