How To Stop Taking Your Wife's Reactions Personally

Published: Wed, 07/24/24

Updated: Thu, 07/25/24

Hey brother,

Every single man knows what I'm talking about.

We learn it early in life...around 4th grade or so.

It's the introduction to the power of female rejection, disapproval or disgust.

I'm no psychologist, but in this case, you don't need one.

It's the oldest trick in the book played against the oldest vulnerability in the book.

Her "trick" is to protect herself by getting you to feel ashamed. The wording is important here.

She's doing it for for herself...not against you.

But boys (and most men) don't know that.

It feels so personal. So hurtful and so mean.

Here, try it on for size.

You're so weird...you're acting so strange
You're so stupid...you're ugly too
You're a pervert...get away from me
I don't like you...and nobody really likes you
You're such a baby (later turns into "pussy")
You're gross...don't even look at me that way
Don't touch me ever again!

I don't know about you, but I've heard all of those in my life somewhere between the ages of 8 and 63.

You can't just ignore it. You can't just pretend it's not happening.

But you CAN do something brand new.

It's a brand new way of thinking about when and WHY this is happening and how a grown man can respond with more confidence, calm, curiosity and playfulness.

Watch this video for more on that.

How To Stop Taking Your Wife's Reactions Personally

The Secret Fear That Keeps You On Your Heels

You can't hide it.

I've had the fear. Every man I know deals with the fear.

It's the fear of LOSING IT ALL.

In the face of female rejection, married men find themselves gripped in the fear of saying or doing the wrong thing and bringing the walls crashing down around them.

When faced with female rejection, disapproval or disgust we will instinctively do one or all of these FOUR THINGS.

We will:

Counter-attack, counter-criticize and/or counter-blame
Go deadly quiet and pull away and go lick our wounds until she gives in and apologizes (it's a very long wait)
Expertly deliver a long, drawn out "Perry Mason Style" defensive argument with evidence that she is wrong...and we'll keep talking until she either agrees or goes into hiding. (guess which one is most common)
Quietly stew with teeming anger and contempt for her and begin calculating the real cost of being a single father. (Divorce math, I call it)

We do these things because we are AFRAID.

And she knows we're afraid. And THAT makes HER more afraid.

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We help you realize that you're not actually "afraid". You just THINK you are.

We expose the truth about male shame, male fear and male insecurity and help you permanently cure them. And THEN we help you have the relationship you've always dreamed of.

Confident, Calm, Curious and Playful?

I know you know this.

ANYTHING you've approached in life with a confident, calm, curious and playful manner always turned out pretty damn good.

Why not do it with your relationship with a woman, brother?

All you have to do is lose the fear.

I believe FEAR of divorce is the #1 cause of divorce.

It makes you think, say and do all the wrong things.

So why not learn how to become the opposite of fear?

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As Teddy Roosevelt said:

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Lotta love,

Steve & Dan

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