Hey brother,
This short, sweet bit of straight-talking tough
love is for you if you've been thinking about writing a long, heart-felt, emotional, honest and apologetic letter to your wife with the SPECIFIC purpose of making her suddenly change her mind about wanting out of your marriage.
Disclaimer: Stop reading this if your wife absolutely LOVES
hearing/reading your long monologues of tender thoughts, loving platitudes, deepest apologies, promises of eternal love and commitment, and pledges of magical transformation.
Still with me? I thought so.
It's usually the BEGINNING of a relationship where grand, romantic gestures carry the most weight. That's not you right now, is it?
When a woman has already voiced her disdain, disappointment, sadness, hopelessness and uncertainty about being your wife, the LAST thing she
wants to see is what I call "The Hail Mary Letter".
She will experience it as desperation.
She will feel it as an inauthentic and fear driven manipulation.
She will probably not even read it all the way through. And she will likely resent you for having to get to this point for you to "open your eyes". (yeah, I have good data on this)
Why? Because at this point, your words no longer hold any power.
Your words are empty without a consistent demonstration of reliable, confident, calm, patient and strong masculine energy.
The Hail Mary Letter isn't a bad idea because of what's written
in it.
It's a bad idea because what's written in is NOT YET TRUE. And the only way to convince her the message in the letter is true is to LIVE IT and BE IT without any attachment to her reaction or the outcome.
I have witnessed dozens of marriages slowly and surely turn back into an incredible 2nd chance at a whole new kind of marriage.
Not one of these transformations started with a perfectly worded letter.
It wasn't a desperate attempt to change her mind that mattered most...it was a willingness to DROP all of the insecure habits and behaviors that have been the long-term root cause of the problems.
Our coaching is so effective because we start at the ROOT of your relationship issues. And the best place to start is where you have ALL of the control...and that is with you.
We reveal ancient secrets and counter-intuitive truths about what pressures a woman to leave
and what makes her want to stay with you.
We teach you HOW to regain self-respect, confidence, patience, compassion and even your sense of humor!
It's not false drama, trickery, persuasion or manipulation.
It's a deep personal growth dive into learning HOW to let go of fear, disapproval and disappointment.
It's a transformational process that helps you learn HOW to totally "let go without giving up" and without anxiety, fear and frustration.