When conflict and sexual frustration have developed in a relationship, there has been a long history of unhappy feelings and bad behaviour from both people.

Your partner knows all about the negative energy you have both created. While she is feeling unhappy and emotionally exhausted, she also knows how she has come-up short in how she has been treating you too.

When a woman feels like this, it’s impossible for her to feel sexually attracted to you.

But often us men don’t feel the same way.

We tend to think that connecting sexually now would help reconnect and sooth the bad feelings and negative energy that you’re both feeling.

She thinks this is INSANE.

This is a huge turn-off for her. To her, you wanting sex right now feels unattractive, needy, un-manly, and a little desperate.

There’s no way that she’s going to want to have sex with someone she’s not attracted to.

She knows that she’s treated you badly, so how could you possibly still feel attracted to her and want to have sex?

If you consistently make sexual advances toward a woman who is feeling unattractive she will also find YOU unattractive.

If you request sex from a woman who KNOWS she’s been both acting unattractively and not showing that she’s attracted to you, she WILL lose respect for you.

There’s a very old cliché that goes: ‘Women need to feel intimacy before having sex – men need to have sex to feel intimacy’.

Clichés are born for a reason. There is a lot of truth to this. But you’re not a slave to it.

So what can you do?

In this video we discuss a change you can make in how you’re showing up in your relationship that can flip a switch and rekindle affection, trust and respect in your relationship.