How Logic Short Circuits The Connection In Your Marriage
Published: Wed, 08/28/24
Updated: Wed, 08/28/24
Hey brother,
I've got a LOT of clients who are IT professionals, engineers, doctors, lawyers and other techie types who are apparently misunderstanding something I teach.
I'm no exception.
I was in computer manufacturing, engineering and project management for 20 years. And when it came to those skills helping me in my world of love, marriage and sex...well...let's say it didn't serve
me well.
Why?
Because my professional background beat into my head the only way of effectively communicating was with cool rational thought, confident and
logical speech and unwavering attention to facts and consistency.
Being perceived as smart and being RIGHT was always my top of mind priority.
How does this work
in your love life?
It doesn't - unless you're sleeping with your clone.
Remember Lilith Sternin - Frazier's wife on Cheers? Yeah. If you married to
her you're fine. Stop reading. (this whole clip cracks me up!)
The tip I want to give my brothers in this email and video is this.
Don't take to extremes my
advice about being "Calm, Deliberate and Pleased".
Taken to extremes we act like robotic, stiffs who have no ability to connect emotionally.
Being calm is good. Being aloof is not.
Being deliberate in your actions is good. Acting like Sheldon (Big Bang Theory) is not.
And being pleased with who you are is good. Self-righteous smugness is not.
The most powerful and attractive you'll ever be is when you balance your masculine strength of calm, deliberate presence with the human
strength of emotional confidence and vulnerability.
It's a potent cocktail and it's a wonderful place to find yourself.
Pickup
artists teach men how to fake this so they can manufacture respect and get laid.
I teach men how to transform themselves so they will respect themselves and be confident as they change their circumstances.
It's only the truly self-reliant, self-respecting confident man who is naturally secure in his own skin. He doesn't go looking for happiness - he IS happiness.
Big difference.
Are you ready to really learn how to handle your wife's emotions, where you make her feel understood AND you still feel confident in yourself at the same time?
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Lotta
love,
Steve & Dan
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