I work with a lot of men who are standing on the hairy edge of major decisions.
* Is this relationship worth saving?
* How do I know if I've done all I can?
* How do I know if it's time to throw in the towel?
* How do I know if I'm ready for a new relationship?
* What if I make the wrong decision?
When you have this much doubt and uncertainty it is always caused by the same thing.
Lack of clarity.
And when you're lacking clarity you find yourself in the same stupid arguments saying the same destructive things.
When you lack clarity you're over-reacting to everything and riding the emotional crazy train anywhere it takes you.
When you lack clarity you feel out of control and fearful of every reaction and every consequence to any decision you make.
The huge mistake men make before deciding to stay, leave or start a new relationship is not getting CLARITY.
You know you have clarity when you are feeling calm instead of anxious.
You feel confident instead fearful.
Your words and your actions are more purposeful and deliberate.
No, you're not an emotionless, robotic ass.
You're actually more tuned in to your own emotions and empathetic toward the feelings of others.
You're more aware of your intentions, your words and the impact you have on others.
Clarity gives you a peaceful sense of acceptance - even when you're in a swirling cloud of sadness. Even when others have hair trigger tempers and the tension is thick and gooey.
THIS is where I want you to be before you make ANY major decision.
From here you will speak your truth, express your real feelings and make the best decisions.
From here...the consequences from the decisions you make are the consequences that are supposed to happen.
I explain this more in this video. (see if you notice the ghost horse stealing the
scene)
