How To Stop Your Marriage Feeling So Lonely

Published: Sun, 08/18/24

Updated: Mon, 08/19/24

Hey brother,

I recently took a trip back east to my old stomping grounds to spend time with two very good, old friends. We stayed on my buddy's huge boat near Ocean City, MD. It was to be a "boys weekend" just to relax and chill.

We spent the first night staying up drinking, playing guitar, telling stories and laughing until the sun came up. (thanks 5-hour Energy) The next days were more of the same.

I relaxed and I chilled out. Mission accomplished.

While it fed my need to relax, chill out and have some fun...it didn't feed my soul.

Why?

Because feeding our souls requires a little more discomfort.

It requires we push ourselves out into the deeper end of the pool. This where men feel the challenge to become stronger, clearer and more intentional with the act of living. This is where we feel more ALIVE and more CONNECTED to our personal power.

Here's a picture of some men who feed my soul.

These guys spent a weekend with me at one of our retreats here in Colorado (we run 3-4 day retreats in the US, Mexico, the UK and plan to have other locations coming up - reply to this email and let me know if you want more information on any of those).

We DID relax, chill out and laugh a lot.

But, we also had an underlying expectation that we were here to open up, encourage, share and support each other. We each took charge of being interested in each other AND in making it the safest place on earth to be vulnerable.

It's not always comfortable. Meaningful exercise requires intentional effort. Growth doesn't happen in your comfort zone.

It's living in the shallow end of the pool - that comfort zone - that ends up killing off men much sooner than their female counterparts.

I talk more about why this is true in this video.

How To Stop Your Marriage Feeling So Lonely

Seven Ways to Know You've Found a Good Men's Group

I'll just be blunt.

Most men need to seriously up the average of the men they choose to hang around. I spent way too many years without quality men in my life and played too long in the shallow end of the pool. I was drowning there.

Your top mission is to find at least ONE good man who can join you in your new Two Man Men's Group. You can also search the web for men's groups in your area. Check Meetup.com or local churches too.

How do you know if you've found a good men's group?

1. There is lots of laughing

2. There is unbridled encouragement and support

3. The energy is always positive

4. You feel like you are really heard and seen

5. There's no whiny complaining, blaming and shaming going on

6. There's a mutual desire to connect, share and learn from each other

7. You feel energized - not drained - whenever you're together

Bonus: You feel happier, peaceful and more powerful than before you were with them.

I'm here to guide you on this mission. If you want to include me in your new circle of men, I'd be honored.

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What do I mean by "SERIOUS"?

We take YOU and your struggles seriously...because we've been there
We know feeling lonely in your marriage is serious...and so is showing your kids how a healthy, masculine man responds to difficult situations
A lack of happiness, direction and confidence in yourself is serious now and for the long term
We believe your personal emotional strength and well-being is serious
We seriously show up 110% to our conversations with you and expect you to be as serious as we are about changing your life

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As Teddy Roosevelt said:

“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.”

Lotta love,

Steve & Dan

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