Today I want to share one of the most powerful lessons I have ever learned.  A lesson that for years I simply refused to even consider.

It's so simple and yet has the power to change everything for you. I know it did for me.

It makes connecting more natural and effortless.
 

It naturally attracts others to you.
 

It unburdens you from the responsibly of dealing with other people’s problems and it makes you invincible.

So what is it?

Get comfortable with feeling uncomfortable.

When you can experience discomfort without needing to do anything about it, you become unstoppable, unbreakable and untriggerable (yeah I know that's not a word but you get what I mean).

You no longer need to do things to avoid those uncomfortable feelings and instead, you can USE them.

I can tell some of you are rolling your eyes right now...getting your counter arguments ready, but hear me out...

It can't be that simple, right?

Let me explain.

How much of your life do you spend avoiding uncomfortable feelings? 

Do you:

• Argue with your wife trying to get her to agree with your perspective
   
• Let people walk over you, dismiss your ideas or treat you poorly
   
• Regularly find yourself doing things that don't interest you or drain you
   
• Easily get offended by other people’s words or actions

In each of those examples there is a common thread.
 

Most of us lean towards the more comfortable option in any situation.

If speaking our mind means feeling uncomfortable, then we shut-up.

If having a different opinion to someone else's creates tension in us, then we try to get them to agree with us (or we dismiss our opinion to take on theirs).

In the short-term, this does often provide some relief, but do it for long enough and you will always end up bitter, resentful and annoyed.

"What would life be like if your feelings were useful signposts rather than annoying distractions"

A powerful coaching question to ask yourself is:

"What would change for me, if I could have ANY feeling, without needing to fight it or change it?".

Most of us would say our lives would improve dramatically if we didn't struggle with the negative feelings we experience (often daily).

Some of us try to numb out to escape these uncomfortable feelings.

Some seek out practices and techniques to try to never experience any uncomfortable feelings again.

And yes, all of these approaches can work to a degree.

But none get to root of the issue.

It's not the feeling that is the problem though. It's your desire to feel comfortable that creates your suffering.

Your feelings are not the problem.  It's the meaning you are giving your feelings that make you unhappy.

For some people, not knowing what is going to happen next is exhilarating!

Doing things on a whim without a plan is thrilling.

They buy a ticket to another country and find accommodation once they land!

I know...they must be crazy, right?!!

For other people, everything must be planned in advance or they become overwhelmed by anxiety and stress.

So how can this be?

It's simple really.

The events, circumstances, and situations you experience in your life have no inherent meaning or feelings tied to them.

They just are.

How you experience those events, circumstances and situations is determined by how you think about them.

The meaning we give to any situation creates an emotional reaction inside us and then how we choose to think about and judge those emotions makes them tolerable or intolerable.

Two different people can have two VERY different experiences of the same situation.

One finds not knowing what is going to happen fun.  The other finds it stressful.

Neither is more right or wrong than the other - they both have a different perceived experience.

One enjoys the excitement.  The other avoids the anxiety (ever noticed how excitement and anxiety can feel very similar?)

In this course we will help you change YOUR experience of your feelings!

What if you could have all the terrifying, unpleasant feelings that come with the ever changing experience of being alive, without needing to change them.

How freeing would that be? 

How much time and energy would you get back? 

No more worrying and analysing going over and over worst case scenarios.

No more avoiding things that scare you whether that's saying the thing that needs to be said or making changes to your life that you know need to happen but haven't been able to take action on.

Garrett and I have been running and refining this course for several years now. What sets it apart is the way we help you to push yourself to grow and become the confident man you want to be.

The Vital Formula To Masculine Confidence Course has been designed to be a hands-on, supportive and challenging experience, led by two men trained in the Goodguys2Greatmen coaching philosophy who have gone through EXACTLY what you are going through right now.

This isn't a "do it all yourself" video course.

This is a real-time coaching journey that will ask you to learn about yourself, what makes you fearful and afraid, what makes you bold and confident...

Join a support network of other men in similar situations who will be going through the course alongside you.

We know what it's like to feel as though it's too risky to take drastic steps towards a different life.

We also know what it's like to NOT take those steps and try to keep everything exactly as it is and always has been.

It's time to stop playing small brother!

Click HERE to secure your spot and improve your relationship by becoming a more confident husband and father.

Registration closes August 10th and our first session will be August 17th at 5:00 PM Pacific.