There's a woo-woo Buddhist rule (The Second Noble Truth as they call it) that says:
All Suffering is the Result of Desire for Pleasure, Material Goods, and Immortality.
What the hell does that mean? And what are you supposed to do with this information?
I'll break it down for you in plain language that any guy can understand.
At the end of the day our suffering is all about desiring something from a place of scarcity and emptiness VS. desiring something from a place
of abundance and fullness.
Still too woo-woo maybe.
Another way to say exactly what I mean is:
Once you become a man who feels okay about himself, his value, his dreams and his mission...you will stop suffering.
I don't mean being full of yourself.
I mean being full within yourself.
When it comes to relationship suffering, I know exactly where it
hurts.
The deep yearning for connection - for touch - for appreciation - for acknowledgement and for sexual pleasure is normal and healthy.
I want those things
too - for as long as I can remember. And I SUFFERED a long time waiting and wondering why I felt so unsatisfied, nervous, frustrated and angry.
It was my internal sense of unworthiness and emptiness that made me suffer - not the people who refused to "make me happy".
I explain more in this video.