Do You Feel "Addicted" to Your Wife? Stop It.

Published: Sun, 06/23/24

Updated: Sun, 06/23/24

Hey brother,

There's this feeling us guys can get when we're with just the right woman.

I know you know what I'm talking about here.

And once you've been bitten by this feeling, a lifelong addiction can set in if you're not careful. And most of us aren't very careful.

I'm betting you have an old memory of the first girl in your life who made you feel this way. The way she looked, sounded and smelled is other worldly.

Her eyes...her lips... her skin, her hair and her style captivates us like a drug that keeps our brains in a fog.

And when she finally touches us...touches our hearts...touches our body or just gives us touching words of affection and appreciation...

Game over.

And then we get married. And it starts all over again.

And this is the problem.

No matter how much we "mature", most of us still harbor that yearning for that feeling of the early years. It's this adolescent yearning that can creep into the daily behavior of any man.

Hell, I'm 63 now and my inner, heart broken 17-old-year old can still see, hear and smell my first romantic love...let's call her "Lisa".

I tell you more about her in this video.

And below, I'll tell you why you may need to go to "rehab".

Do You Feel "Addicted" to Your Wife? Stop It.

Put your hand on a hot stove for a minute and it seems like an hour. Sit with a pretty girl for an hour, and it seems like a minute. - Albert Einstein

Even Einstein knew the cosmic force of a woman's ability to bend space and time for a man.

Why is this important for you?

Because you're on this email list for a reason and that reason usually involves ONE WOMAN in your life who has been bending space and time.

In other words, you've experienced the discomfort of disconnection, lost affection and/or the prospect of losing the "best thing you've ever had in your life!".

That's how many men share their deepest fears with me.

The coaching process for men who suffer from this "addiction related anxiety" involves some tough love...and a gentle hand.

You may need a "firm, but fair" conversation with a man who has been in your shoes before.

We can't tell you to just STOP IT! That never works.

You have to dig deeper to understand WHY so many otherwise smart and successful men fall to pieces at the hand of an unhappy woman.

And when you understand how our own lack of self-respect, worthiness and confidence is the SOURCE of our pain, we can start changing our relationship to something better.

When you begin to calm the fear, anger and jealousy in your brain, you can start being the calm, steady, strong man she wants to live with.

Don't get me wrong here.

Yes, she WANTS you to love her and she WANTS you to want her.

But, she doesn't want your attraction and desire for her to feel overwhelming, smothering or controlling.

Those 3 words are the most common ones we hear from women who claim to have "lost the spark" or "love you, but don't feel in love anymore."

Does it sound like I've been hiding under your bed?

I don't need to. I have data.

Data point #1 is me. I AM you. And after 11 years of speaking to carbon copies of myself, I know your story too.

The bad news is that you're a cliché. And that's good news. We know what to do with that!

The best way to stop being a cliché is to start doing things that most people never do.

Most people never ask for help
Most people never look inward for answers.
Most people deny having any responsibility for what they have helped to create.

Don't be like most people. Let's find a way for you to be the OPPOSITE of a cliché.

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If you're tired of being a cliché, here are some very simple next steps.

Free: If you're serious about building your masculine mojo then apply for a coaching call with us we will help you identify what to focus on and what to avoid to get you feeling confident again.

What do I mean by "SERIOUS"?

We take YOU and your struggles seriously...because we've been there
We know living in a struggling marriage is serious...and so is showing your kids what a healthy, affectionate relationship looks like
A lack of consideration, respect and affection of all kinds is serious now and for the long term health of your marriage
We believe your personal emotional strength and well-being is serious
We seriously show up 110% to our conversations with you and expect you to be as serious as we are about changing your life

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As Teddy Roosevelt said:

“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.”

Lotta love,

Steve & Dan

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