"If You Love Her, Let Her Go"

24 months had passed since Blake's wife Molly had confessed to having an emotional affair. 

Over the last two years, Blake had made great strides in his confidence and clarity of purpose... and his demeanor showed it!  

His self-assured behavior bled into his business, and he saw a substantial increase in profits because of it. 

Both Blake's employees and customers felt understood and supported as he no longer avoided conflict or swept things under the rug with them.

As he demonstrated leadership, even acquiring new customers became easier, as they felt reassured that they were in good hands. 
 

Some days, Blake forgot he was in a sexless marriage, as he poured himself into creating an awesome life for himself. 

He was getting pretty good at connecting with women's feelings and being playful with them in a way that was fun and attractive. 

Thanks to the mentorship of his good friend Mike, Blake had stopped all the immature, needy, and urgent behavior he used to swamp his wife with. 

There were days when Molly seemed like she was warming back up to Blake, but overall, her heart still felt closed off to him. 

During a moment of clarity a few months ago, Blake realized his wife had only ended her emotional affair because he had put up such a huge stink about it. 
 

Blake knew in his gut he was settling for less than the standards he had for himself in marriage. 

The biggest factor that kept Blake from filing for divorce was his fear of looking like a failure. 

Blake's fear was resolved one day when Mike said, "Understand, Blake, that if both you and your wife are not being committed, intimate, connected, romantic, and sexual, you don't have a marriage. Divorce is just letting the State know you should be taxed differently, it has zero status about your relationship. If Molly doesn't want to be your wife, letting her go be with who she loves is the loving thing to do" 

Blake's Hardest Decision Of His Life

With tears in his eyes and shaking hand, he served Molly divorce papers one evening when he got home from work. 

Molly looked at the papers and also teared up. 
 

"How is this landing for you?" Blake asked Molly

"Honestly, It feels like RELIEF", Molly said, as a tear slipped down her cheek. 

The next few weeks were busy as Blake took the lead on packing Molly's stuff and helping her find a new home to live in. 

Even though it was hard to see the home they had built together get packed up, Blake found a strange calmness wash over him as he deliberately kept taking the next steps. 

By the end of the month, Blake only had two pictures left on the wall, and an air-up mattress on the floor. 

Molly was moved into her new home, and the divorce was set to be finalized by a judge in 8 weeks. 

As Blake sat on his air-up mattress, he realized that he still felt the same sense of loneliness that he had experienced every time Molly had turned away from him in bed over the years.

Mike had talked to him about this, saying,  "Things like loneliness and sadness are things we carry in ourselves, they are not put there by other people." 
 

Mike downloaded some meditations to help him reflect on his feelings of loneliness and to gain clarity on the aspects of himself that felt unloved. 

Sex That Blew Blake's Brain

One night, while Blake was lying on his air-up mattress listening to meditations, he got a text from Molly.

Her text said, "Hey Blake, I need to stop by for a bit, just giving you a heads-up"

That's strange, Blake thought to himself. 

20 Minutes later, Molly was standing in the room with Blake. 

"I can't do this," Molly said, as her voice cracked. 

"Do what"? Blake asked with concern. 

"This divorce" Molly replied. 

She fumbled for words a bit then continued, "I feel so guilty for my emotional affair with Nick back in the day. Honestly, every time I saw you the last few years it made me feel so bad I couldn't even function. Being away from you felt like relief at first, but then the guilt crept back. I finally realized the guilt was in me, it wasn't you. I'm so sorry for this whole mess Blake." 

What happened next totally caught Blake by surprise. 
 

Molly slipped off her dress and started making out with Blake. 

The passionate sex Blake and Molly had that night made up for the years of lost intimacy. 

When Blake woke up the next morning, Molly was lying naked by his side. 
 

"What the heck, I did not see this coming," Blake thought to himself.

Blake recounted in his mind all the stories and times he and Mike had shared over the last two years. 
 

Blake could honestly look back and see how he and Mike never would have connected if it wasn't for Molly's affair. 
 

The very challenges he once believed were ruining his life led to a growth in his masculinity that he wouldn't have achieved otherwise, and he was grateful for it.

While Molly continued to sleep, Blake went into his office to sort some paperwork.
 

Soon, Molly entered holding a coffee pot. 

Blake spun his chair around, leaned back, looked into Molly's eyes and asked, "How are you feeling"? 
 

“Sore", Molly chuckled.
 

"Ya, I hear ya.. sore is uncomfortable, isn't it”,  Blake empathized.

Then Blake held out his coffee cup for Molly to fill and with a wink said, "Fill it 2/3rds full...A drop more and you'll get bad luck"

Molly blushed and filled Mike's cup, careful not to overfill it.
 

"Bossy today are we?”, Molly teased. 

Blake didn't say anything. 

He simply looked into her eyes and gave her a wink.  

How You Can Gain Blake’s Mojo

Pain is pointless in life if we don't use it to learn something. 

Many of the men I've worked with have testimonies like Blake's. 

I can tell you from personal experience the only reason I gained the mindsets, values, and practices I needed to grow my masculine confidence and relationship skills was because of my wife's affair. 
 

Even though Blake and Molly had regained their sex life, this didn't mean the relationship was smooth sailing thereafter. 

It's been inspiring to stay in touch with Blake over the years and see him continue to evolve as a man and lead his marriage. 

In our Vital Formula To Masculine Confidence Course, we're going to teach you the basics of what it means to be a strong man in your marriage. 

When life is easy, money is flowing, and we're getting tons of sex, we have zero initiative to do a course like this. 

If you're suffering in your marriage right now, give the suffering meaning by taking this course. 

This is an investment you'll never regret, take it from Blake.