The Consequences of Becoming a “Hummingbird Husband”

Masculine vulnerability is NOT neediness.

Neediness is collapsing into helplessness while handing your power over to another person, expecting that it is their responsibility to “fix” things for you and make you feel okay.

When a man loses confidence in himself and begins to look to his wife for constant validation and reassurance, the passionate sexual attraction begins to drain out the relationship for her.

It’s when his energy becomes more nervous, unbalanced, unstable, and “needy” that she begins to freeze up and pull away. And the more she does, the more insecure and pursuing he becomes: thus starts the downward spiral.

We call this the Hummingbird Husband Syndrome. And the results can be disastrous.

As she loses more and more respect and attraction, many men suddenly hear their wives say something like,

“I will always love you, but I’m not IN love with you anymore.”

And the next thing you know, separation and even divorce are on the table.

This tipping point is the time most of the men we work with show up in free-fall with their hair on fire trying to figure out what just happened.

We created our online course for men, How to Defuse the Divorce Bomb to specifically help men whose marriages are teetering on the brink or even gone over the edge.

The short clip below is from one of the lessons in our program that describes what it means to have “hummingbird energy” in your marriage and what the alternative is. Check it out:

"The Difference Between a Hummingbird and a Mountain Lion"

This video is just a small taste of the over 9 hours of core coaching content that makes up the How to Defuse the Divorce Bomb course for men.

In this intensive course and the men’s community that is part of it, we give you the straight talk lessons on how to become a confident man who can quickly bring attractive new energy to his marriage.

It’s not your fault that you don’t know this stuff – this is what your dad didn’t tell you (probably because he didn’t know either!).

Click on that link above to learn all about it and see some more sneak peek clips directly from the course material.

There IS Something You Can Do Before It’s Too Late

The men we coach in our courses and retreats that have taken swift, positive action have created miracles in their marriages and lives.

What kind of miracles can you create?

You develop a cool, calm, confident swagger that she finds curiously attractive again

You experience a total mindset shift about “wanting” her vs. “needing” her. (she notices this one almost immediately and it makes her nervous AND attracted)

There is laugher together for the first time in months because she can finally relax with you

An unexpected kiss in the morning and / or at night with no clue what you “did right”

A feeling of well-being that replaces the knot in your gut and lets you finally sleep through the night

All of this is possible and more. But it is only through your own personal growth that you can have the amazing relationship you want.

And you will drastically accelerate your confidence and growth by working with other men who are also in that process.

Along with this course, we've created a number of ways to teach you the tools and give you the support you need to transform your THINKING and start KNOWING you're an attractive, worthy man no matter what anyone else says: