How To Get The Love & Intimacy You Want

Published: Wed, 01/31/24

Hey brother,

This probably the MOST COMMON QUESTION we get in our community.

You will recognize it because I know YOU have asked this question - at least in your own head.

Hell, I've asked myself this question in a variety of ways over the years.

Here's the question exactly as it appeared today in one of our group chats.

"Just a question to satisfy myself. I hear a lot in this group : do not be seeking approval , do not be looking for validation from your Partner.

But really isn't that what every person in the world wants? Don't we all want to be loved? And isn't that what love is supposed to do? And isn't that what we try to so with our wives? Make them feel loved and adored? Isn't that what relationships do?

If we don't get approval from our partner what is the point of the relationship if we can't give that and receive that?

Or are we all supposed to believe Def Leppard ...'Love bites'?"

If I start typing an answer now, I may never stop.

There's so much to say, I'm going to go straight to video.

Here are 7 minutes of man-to-man coaching on this subject.

This is what your dad, uncle or grandfather may not have told you.

Bottom Line: No, it's not wrong to want to be loved.

But as I always say, there is a HEALTHY way and an UNHEALTHY way express your desire for love and intimacy.

There is a SECURE way and an INSECURE way to show up in a relationship.

There is a MATURE approach and an IMMATURE approach to getting what you want from your life and ALL your relationships.

Some people believe that two people should learn to soothe, nurture and support each other's wounds and insecurities.

I would agree! That is a hallmark of two loving, conscious and emotional mature people.

But if a man is constantly feeling resentful, angry and/or dissatisfied in his marriage, there's a good chance he has work to do on the loving, conscious and mature part of himself.

It changes your daily attitude about your relationship.

It changes your perspective on what a healthy marriage is.

It gives you confidence and compassion when things aren't going perfectly.

Becoming more loving, conscious and mature will quickly change your whole life.

This is what we do for men.

It's what we love to do 24/7. It's all we think about.

And we're really good at it.

There is a reason most men tell us that a one-hour phone call with us gave them more insight and actionable guidance than a year of therapy.

I want you to experience this.

I want you to explore what "personal growth" really means for a man like you.

And I want YOU to want that.

We've created a number of ways to teach you the tools and give you the support you need to transform your THINKING and start KNOWING how you want to respond to any situation:

Free: Fill out our contact form for your "Become A Healthy Mature Masculine Man" consultation call - it's a free, no strings, 90 minute deep dive personalized coaching session to help you identify what to focus on to get you moving toward what you really want.

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$69 Monthly Subscription: Join Dan and I in our Men's Roundtable Group Coaching membership. We meet three times per month for live group coaching and we support you in a powerful group of men facing the same issues you are. It's a $69 investment. You get INSTANT access to 5 years of recorded sessions! Try it for one month. What have you got to lose?

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As Teddy Roosevelt said:

“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.”

Lotta love,

Steve & Dan

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