Want Your Next 10 Years To Be Unbelievably Good?

Published: Mon, 01/29/24

Hey brother,

This notion blows my mind every time I come across it.

It doesn't have an immediate impact until you put it in proper context.

We are socialized to believe that "happiness" is a result instead of a starting point.

Therefore, when problems, offenses and dissatisfactions cross our external path we tend to believe those external events CAUSE our unhappiness.

And THEN we proceed to fixing them...dealing with them...doing battle with them from a trench of unhappiness.

And when we try to deal with unpleasant events and feelings from a starting point of unhappiness, we are unspeakably ineffective.

And then the downward spiral of anger and resentment begins. Every single time.

It poisons your sense of self-confidence and it poisons your relationships.

My first five decades were pretty decent, but I wasted a LOT of time in anger, resentment and judgment of everyone and everything that dared to "make me unhappy".

This was especially true as my marriage was ending shortly after my 50th birthday. It appeared things were setting up for a pretty crappy decade.

Boy was I wrong.

I wanted more. I wanted to change the way I approached life.

I dug deep into my thinking, hired some amazing coaches, traveled to intensive training events, spent countless hours reading and talking with wise people and I came to an embarrassing realization.

I had it all wrong. I thought happiness, intimacy, aliveness and passion were caused by random events that happened to me.

When I realized those things are already inside me, my next decade exploded...in a really good way.

In this video I try to help you with your new realization and your next decade.

Want Your Next 10 Years To Be Unbelievably Good?

This may sound excessively woo-woo to you.

Believe me, I've got a low tolerance for woo-woo platitudes that have no practical context or application.

That's why I like to shoot videos and talk about this stuff in a corral full of horse shit. It keeps me grounded and humble.

My point is this. This stuff is critically important to you.

There is only ONE WAY to "fix" your insecure feelings of fear, anger resentment, judgment, loneliness, abandonment, rejection, desperation and the big one..."unhappiness". (how many of those can you check off?)

You must accept the responsibility for how your THINKING is creating those feelings.

This doesn't mean the objective facts around you are not true and not happening.

It simply means you MUST LEARN TO LET GO of the childish desire to control and manipulate those objective facts in order to achieve your own well-being and happiness.

Do you want to learn how to do that and start living each day from a secure, confident and happy frame of mind?

This is what we do for men.

It's what we love to do 24/7. It's all we think about.

And we're really good at it.

There is a reason most men tell us that a one-hour phone call with us gave them more insight and actionable guidance than a year of therapy.

There is a reason a man get off our consultation calls with his head up and shoulders back and a spring in his step.

It's because we don't let you focus on what's "wrong".

We teach you to focus on what's right, what's true and what's possible when you decide to stop blaming events and people for your shitty feelings.

I want you to experience this.

I want you to explore what "personal growth" really means for a man like you.

And I want YOU to want that.

We've created a number of ways to teach you the tools and give you the support you need to transform your THINKING and start KNOWING how you want to respond to any situation, no matter how "urgent or important" it may appear right now.

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As Teddy Roosevelt said:

“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.”

Lotta love,

Steve & Dan

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