Self-Help Hell: How to Know When You've Arrived

Published: Sun, 01/14/24

Hey brother,

I have a list of books for you that can quite possibly change your entire life and relationship.

They will change the very way you THINK about "problems" forever.

Hell, you won't even see them as "problems" anymore!

And that feels really good.

But, here's the problem.

When a man in our community starts reading self-help books, he's usually drawn there by a deep, throbbing sense of pain and doom.

He's looking for a cure.

He's looking for a magic bullet.

He's looking for a miracle "Hail Mary" solution to his pending "death by female" situation.

And that makes him stand at the buffet of "Self-Help Hell" and gorge on anything he thinks will make him feel better and in more control of his situation.

He'll even watch my stupid video below hoping to hear something that will fix his life or fix his wife?

There's a better way to read important books without feeling like you're in an emotional free fall grasping at straws.

This stupid video will tell you more.

My Definition of Self-Help Hell

I know what you're thinking.

Those feelings of deep, throbbing pain and doom feel very REAL to you...caused by very REAL problems.

There are objective FACTS at hand. And, there are objective STAKES at risk.

But if you are reading books trying to find a way to change those facts, you're in self-help hell.

You can't change facts, but you CAN change your response to those facts...you must.

I want to help you change the way you are THINKING about those facts. This is what will help you make really effective decisions and really healthy choices.

I want to help you connect with a stronger, clearer and more confident part of your brain where:

You can see what's really going on behind the curtain of fear - hers and yours!
You can slow your own heart rate, hold your tongue and speak more calmly and clearly without making things worse.
You can eliminate the ruminating, random thoughts that haunt your sleep and make you over-react to everything..

"Self Help Hell" is constantly searching for answers and wisdom you already have...trying to solve problems that don't actually exist....except for your "thinking".

The Goodguys2Greatmen coaching process is different from most.

How?

We know there is an enormous gap between your intellectual grasp of a concept and your ability to emotionally absorb and embrace a new way of being.

You must experience a personal transformation on the inside before you have any chance of positively changing the situation on the outside.

And, that's the promise I make to you when you get involved in this community.

We are full-time, professional coaches who know how the journey goes and how to transform your thinking, making you more confident and effective than you've ever been.

What's your best next step? Try one of these.

Free: Fill out our contact form for your "Change My Thinking" consultation call - it's a free, no strings, 90 minute deep dive personalized coaching session to help you identify what to focus on to get you moving toward what you really want.

Free: Take Our Masculinity Mastery Self Assessment Here

$69 Monthly Subscription: Join Dan and I in our Men's Roundtable Group Coaching membership. We meet three times per month for live group coaching and we support you in a powerful group of men facing the same issues you are. It's a $69 investment. You get INSTANT access to 5 years of recorded sessions! Try it for one month. What have you got to lose?

$397 One-Time Payment: How to Defuse the Divorce Bomb is a self-paced course with me, Tim Wade, and a community of men learning how to lead when you've just heard, "I love you but I'm not in love with you" or "I want to separate or divorce."

As Teddy Roosevelt said:

“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.”

Lotta love,

Steve & Dan

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