How We Make A Difficult Situation Much Worse

Published: Sun, 03/17/24

Hey brother,

You may be old enough to remember Bob Newhart.

He was a comedian in the 70's and 80's and had a show where he played a psychiatrist. And when a lady comes into his office and says she is horribly afraid of being buried alive in a box...his only advice is to:

STOP IT!! (you can watch it here if you want)

He doesn't want to hear about her mother, her dreams or her astrological sign. He just says, "STOP IT"...for a $5 fee.

While it's not top notch psychotherapy, it's funny as hell.

And I think there is some deep wisdom in the notion we actually have the ability to STOP thinking ourselves into fearful stories, fearful thoughts and fearful words and action.

We often coach men to simply STOP certain things.

Stop arguing
Stop defending yourself all the time
Stop apologizing for everything
Stop finding blame
Stop talking when words aren't needed
Stop assuming the worst

Those are great starting points you can start STOPPING tonight and you will see nearly instantaneous results.

Here's another thing we teach you how to stop.

It's that annoying narrative in your head. It's the silly, non-stop story of doom you create over and over again. It's that cruel voice that convinces you that you're somehow broken and just might live the rest of your life alone.

Bullshit. That's not true. And it's not going to happen. Period.

So STOP IT!

I made this vide for you to explain this a little more.

How We Make A Painful Situation Much Worse

Now That You've Stopped...What Should You Start?

The problem with stopping something is you can't let it go without knowing what will take its place.

One big benefit to having self-destructive thoughts is that we get to avoid the responsibility of creating new ones.

That's the value of having an older, wiser man in your corner.

We know all about the shit show in your head.

We know all about the story of the future that's got you waking up at 3:30am every single day.

We know about the knot in your stomach and why you've lost 15 pounds in 30 days.

And we know your story so well, we can help you laugh at yourself a bit.

The TRUTH is that things aren't as horrible as they appear.

And the truth is that the notion of "horrible" is entirely made up inside that incredibly CREATIVE head of yours.

Are you ready to use that head to CREATE something new? Something more true and more pleasurable?

Your daily sense of calm, peaceful and confident well-being is yours to create.

And when you do, the problems you're facing with your wife and marriage don't look so scary.

And THAT's when men start seeing real changes.

What you should do next...

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As Teddy Roosevelt said:

“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.”

Lotta love,

Steve & Dan

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