The 3 Habits Of A Man With A Happy Marriage

Published: Sun, 03/10/24

Hey brother,

Have you ever met a guy who seems almost annoyingly happy all the time?

He seems genuinely content from day to day, never complains about much...especially his relationship.

When you talk with him he's consistently present, connected and encouraging toward you.

He's annoyingly upbeat and positive and his wife seems to look at him with an adoring and amused expression.

They may tease each other, but never unkindly or disrespectfully.

That bastard! How's he do it?

If you're reading this email, you're probably a lot like me. I spent many years wondering about guys like that.

While I was generally content with work and recreational stuff, I was often one of the unhappiest husbands in room.

What does "unhappy' mean?

For me it was this chronic and continual assessment of my relationship. I would compare myself to men I thought were "happier" than I was. I would compare HER to women I thought were better wives than she was.

I was constantly searching for a "happy marriage" based on what I could see on the OUTSIDE.

I did this while my INSIDES were gurgling with discontent, envy, anger, resentment and impatience. My thoughts were polluted with negative judgment and frequently critical or unkind regard.

More often than not, that nasty energy would leak out of my brain and out of my mouth.

I had no freaking clue what was happening or how to change it.

I wanted to be one of those happy bastards so bad I've ended up doing this work for 10 yrs. now.

This video is about the epiphany that changed me...my way of thinking and ultimately, my consistent experience of "happiness".

I finally learned the sly secret those "happy husbands" were hiding.

The 3 Habits Of A Man With A Happy Marriage

The 3 Baseline Habits of a Happy Human...and Husband

As I said in the video, these 3 things seem stupidly simple but, for some reason, can take a lifetime to learn.

It's not just an academic understanding you need to develop these habits.

A serious transformation of your own self-esteem, your daily perspective and your thinking habits is not something you get from a video or newsletter.

Here are the 3 baseline habits:

1. Begin to think of yourself with much higher regard; a man who knows he is worthy and valuable and, by default, can embody happiness in ANY situation. Your transformation is the realization that happiness is not accessible anywhere outside of your own mind or body.

2. Be kind. So simple, but so powerful. This requires you to see yourself as a bottomless pit of contentment. A man who is not threatened by drama, chaos or external circumstances. Your transformation is the realization that kindness is the most powerful gift you can give on a daily basis.

3. Hold her in high regard. This is the habit of giving people benefit of the doubt and assuming the best instead of the worst. This habits preempts that snarky, suspicious, judgmental, defensive, and butt-hurt energy we can ooze through our pores. Your transformation is the realization that when you change the way you look at her...she will actually change in front of your eyes.

Knowing WHAT to do is clear enough. What about the HOW?

That's a good question. While some people do pretty well taking the DIY route, most of us need more help.

In my case, transforming my perspective and thinking habits is still a work in progress. One reason I love coaching is because it's a process of continuous growth and learning. Every man who joins our community brings a new story, new challenges and new wisdom.

That's why I invite you to join the Goodguys2Greatmen community and consider taking a serious, deep dive into this work.

Nothing will accelerate your growth and spark your confidence more than talking with other men on the same path.

Here are four ways to get started today:

$69 Monthly Subscription: Join Dan and I in our Men's Roundtable Membership. We meet three times per month for live group coaching and we support you in a powerful group of men learning how to confidently face the same issues as you. With over 5 years of recorded sessions and the option to just try it for a month - what have you got to lose?

Free: Our "I Want To Be A Happy Man Creating A Happier Life with a Happier Marriage" initial Coaching Sessions are free. These calls are real 90 minute coaching sessions where we dive deep into your current challenges and help you get a perspective where you feel calm and confident to take action and move forward: Go HERE to apply for your Free 90 minute coaching call

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As Teddy Roosevelt said:

“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.”

Lotta love,

Steve & Dan

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