Why "Saving Your Marriage " Isn't Really What You Need

Published: Sun, 11/05/23

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Hey brother,

I'll be blunt.

Most of the "Save My Marriage" stuff out there will be useless to you.

Why?

Because most of it tells you only WHAT you can do to reconcile your marriage (usually in JUST 3 WEEKS!!).

Like this article title. It's the first one to pop up when I Google "How to Save My Marriage".

How to Save Your Marriage: 20 Tips For Healthy Reconciliation

The 20 tips on what to do are not bad tips...it's just that 99% of the couples reading that article can't imagine doing even ONE of them.

Why?

Because both people in the relationship are a hot mess of anger, resentment, anxiety, fear and insecurity.

There is no number of TIPS that can help a couple in that condition.

They don't need to know what do to right now.

They need to learn how to not be hot messes.

If you're a hot mess when trying any of those 20 tips you'll look and feel ridiculous. Nobody trusts a hot mess when they're "trying to be nice" or "trying to communicate better".

As George Pransky explains in The Relationship Handbook, "communication" is NOT the #1 cause of divorce.

It's the loss of "connection".

And the #1 cause of the loss of connection is good old, everyday, garden variety INSECURITY.

Pransky refers to insecurity as the #1 Human Emotional Disease which kills most marriages.

This is why I say, "Brother, I'm not interested in saving your marriage...I first want to help you save yourself."

Don't try to "fix her" with tips.
Don't try to make her "love you" with tips.
Don't try to "save your marriage with tips.

When you save yourself from all of the insecure thoughts, feelings and stories which haunt you on a daily basis, you'll feel emotionally stronger and more confident.

You'll feel a little lighter, less anxious and more compassionate.

When you finally get a grip on the hot mess of thinking induced bullshit in your head, she can finally move toward you...just a little bit.

And THAT is when a few good tips can help you.

First things first. Stop being a hot mess.

And THAT is fully in your wheelhouse, brother.

It had better be...because if it's not...you're in real trouble.

More about that in this video.

Why Marriage Counseling Makes Things Worse for Many Men

If you want to know what separates Goodguys2Greatmen from all the other "save your marriage" noise out there...it's this:

We only work with MEN...and we understand the real causes of your disconnection with your wife.

We don't sugar coat it...and we hold you accountable for your part in the equation. No marriage can be saved with an insecure man at the helm.

We teach you HOW to become a SECURE, CONFIDENT and HAPPY man...despite what's happening in your relationship.

Then we coach you through implementing powerful changes in the way you think, speak and behave.

Then we teach you how to be a better leader and role model for the changes you want and connection you are craving.

We won't promise to save your marriage...but we will promise you'll be a better, stronger, happier, secure man.

And THAT guy has the best chance to create the relationship he's always wanted.

What's the next step for you?

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As Teddy Roosevelt said:

“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.”

What have you got to lose?

With love, brother,

Steve & Dan

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