Being Sexually Bold At The Wrong Time Backfires
Women desire romantic confidence from their partners, but
not constantly.
Yes, we need to resolve our shame around our sexuality.
Yes, we need to be confident with our bodies and not be awkward with our
lovemaking but boldly pushing our sexuality 24/7 is what backfires.
Initiating lovemaking takes confidence.
Stopping our sexual pursuit when she isn't
receptive while maintaining playfulness takes MORE confidence.
In a long-term relationship, a woman is turned on by how we handle her rejections to our advances, not by how we handle her enjoyment of our advances.
The concept above made no sense to me when I first learned it.
I'm here to tell you it has
revolutionized my sex life.
When we can call off our sexual pursuit while maintaining a non-needy vibe, her juices start to flow.
Women's Buildup For Intimacy
A woman's desire builds through numerous intimate moments, like "drips" filling a bucket, until it reaches a point of arousal.
When I say, "bucket", I'm referring to how women are vessels who accumulate their experiences internally.
Have you noticed women always remember the past?
She's wired for her emotional experiences to accumulate, one on top of the other, shaping how she feels.
"Intimate moments" are things like:
- Feeling valued
- Feeling emotionally safe and connected
- Feeling slight anxiety about our love for her (creates want)
- Feeling a little left out (creates desire)
- Feeling appreciated
- Feeling teased
- Feeling beautiful
In my experience, when a relationship is NOT on the rocks, a
woman will accumulate "intimate moments" into her bucket for about a week (or even two) before she starts to brim with erotic desire.
We men are so different!
Show us a picture of a hot girl and we're turned on NOW.
Women show signs when they're ready for us to express our unbridled sexuality.
Here's 6 signs it's time to be sexually
bold:
- She's blushing, avoiding eye contact, and fiddling with her hair
- She's happily chatting for a very long time.
- She's lingering around us while occasionally brushing
against us or touching our arm.
- She walks past us with no pants or top then lingers for no apparent reason.
- She shows us a craft or something she made then hangs around like she's waiting for approval.
- She's facing us while she talks, and as we step closer, she doesn't back up or turn to the side.
The blushing sign is my favorite.
When she's blushing, she's literally so hot and bothered she can't control herself.
When we see these signs, hesitation will squander the moment.
When she shows one (or more) of the signs above, cup her face and plant a long hot kiss on her lips.
If she's receptive to the kiss, lead her into an amazing intimate experience!
If she isn't receptive to your kiss, just smile and back off.
Most of us guys already knew about "testing the waters" with a kiss but we typically used OUR level of desire to push us to "test the
water".
Testing her because we're horny is as annoying as a mosquito on a summer night.
LET HER COME TO YOU with signs she's ALREADY turned on before going for
a long hot kiss.
How To Be Sexually Bold When Your Marriage Is Struggling
If I could boil this whole article down to one sentence it would be this: Our horniness is not the indicator of when it's time to be sexually bold, her receptivity
is.
Some self-evaluating questions to improve intimacy are:
- How good am I at not taking things personally so I can connect with where SHE is?
- Can I see "no" as an indicator of HER state, not a statement about me?
- Do I have clarity about how I love to behave regardless of how others are being?
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In the course, we teach you how to stop walking on eggshells with your amazing gift of sexual intimacy and to view yourself as the
prize.
This course is taught LIVE so you get specific coaching for your situation.
When a relationship is on the rocks, it's time to face our fears, shame, insecurities, and triggers and stop trying to "fix" what's frustrating about our partner.
Until we face our own issues, we're not in a position to lead the relationship to a
better place.
Be the sexually bold man she can't rattle.
