Feeling Alone Even Though You're In A Relationship?

Published: Thu, 12/07/23

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Hey brother,

I know what it feels like to be in an intimate, romantic, monogamous relationship and yet to feel totally alone.

Especially hard at time of celebration or "happy holidays!"

What I really want to tell you is, no matter what you're going through at this moment, I wish you the strength, faith and clarity to know...above anything else...that your happiness is within you.

In other words, I wish you to find your "Inherent Happiness". This is yours for the taking and is not found anywhere OUTSIDE of you.

I want your holidays to include the self-awarded gift of self-respect and self-reliance which form the foundation of your "inherent happiness".

With that in mind, I also want to remind you that your happiness will not be found on the All-You-Can-Eat Self-Help Buffet.

Don't think for a second that I don't love a good book, video, podcast or 4-day self-help seminar.

In fact, I assign a LOT of that stuff in my one-on-one coaching program.

But there is a point of diminishing returns.

It's like when I used to practice juggling a soccer ball for hours. I could go longer than anyone. I could balance the ball on my head while running. At first glance you would think I was a good player.

Early in my soccer development I spent more time ALONE than actually PLAYNG THE FREAKING GAME! And it showed on the field. My skills had never been challenged. My tricks never tested.

It wasn't until I played hard with other guys that I learned what the game was all about. I couldn't just have good skills. I needed teammates I could trust to challenge me.

I needed good INSTINCTS!

And instincts are created in the heat of the battle by being tested over and over again.

The moral of the story when it comes to self-help is that we MUST GET ON THE FIELD at some point. If you don't, you're likely to just buy another damn book that says pretty much what the last one did.

Watch this video for more about that.

Feeling Alone Even Though You're In A Relationship?

Do you have good INSTINCTS when it comes to your relationships

Are you caught off-guard and on your heels when facing conflict?

Do you feel like a deer in the headlights when challenged on your behaviors and beliefs?

Do you lose all your mojo when it comes to actually STATING what you want and what you don't want?

Would you rather punch a hole in the wall when criticized than calmly step into the emotional storm with a calm swagger of curiosity?

If you answered YES to any one of those questions, I'm betting you're not spending enough time with the right men.

You're not sharpening your sense of self-respect and you're not becoming CLEAR about what you stand for or what you want.

This is done ON THE FIELD with other men.

You simply cannot do this in the privacy of your own mind and in your own self-help library.

Scary as hell, isn't it? I KNOW!

Even men who have been in my community for years sometimes "lurk" in the background of a live meeting or Facebook group. They quietly watch and listen to the perils and fears of others without getting on the field. It's messy out there, I know.

But you will never feel more clear - more confident - more COURAGEOUS as when you finally allow yourself to be seen and heard by those you can trust. And guess what? They are craving to be seen and heard by YOU as well.

Are you ready to come off the bench? Ready to add some gasoline to your self-help fire?

There is no better way than joining our community of great men.

What is so "great" about them?

1. They have gotten on the field of brotherhood and decided to start practicing the fine art of vulnerability.

2. They are learning the subtle art of listening.

3. They are developing astonishingly RARE connections with other men who want exactly what they want from life.

4. And they are getting it!

We want you in the game with us. Seriously. We do.

Consider joining us over the holidays in one of these ways.

The FASTEST way to get results like the one above is with your own personal navigator. Apply here for a FREE 90 minute personal 1-to-1 coaching session to FEEL the power of our coaching process. I guarantee you will feel your mojo returning by the end of the call.

Some other options for you to get started today are:

Free: Take Our Attractive Husband Self Assessment Here

$69 Monthly Subscription: Join Dan and I in our Men's Roundtable Group Coaching membership. We meet three times per month for live group coaching and we support you in a powerful group of men facing the same issues you are. It's a $69 investment. You get INSTANT access to 5 years of recorded sessions! Try it for one month. What have you got to lose?

$397 One-Time Payment: How to Defuse the Divorce Bomb is a self-paced course with me, Tim Wade, and a community of men learning how to lead when you've just heard, "I love you but I'm not in love with you" or "I want to separate or divorce."

As Teddy Roosevelt said:

“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.”

With love, brother,

Steve & Dan

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