You Trained Your Wife How To Treat You (Ouch!)

Published: Wed, 08/23/23

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Hey brother,

Have you ever heard this quote?

You Teach People How to Treat You

It's been around since the first caveman got knocked in the head with a club.

He had to figure out how to keep THAT from happening again.

And the idea of "boundaries" was born.

But why do we still suck at defining and enforcing boundaries?

Why do we still complain about "how we're being treated"?

Simple. We've been brainwashed to avoid conflict and to be overly cooperative.

We've been TRAINED by our recent "nice guy" (and "nice gal") ancestors to tolerate bad behavior...to just get along and not rock the boat.

Well, I think that's a recipe for a crappy life and miserable relationships.

We must take responsibility for how people treat us by standing strong in the standards we expect for ourselves.

In this video I tell the story of a client who took 1 YEAR to teach his wife to stop criticizing and verbally insulting him in front of the kids.

You Trained Your Wife To Treat You The Way She Does

"You Also Reap What You Sow"

That's another good quote and an important point when it comes to setting boundaries.

We can't just go around declaring our boundaries and "teaching people how to treat us" if we're total dicks.

You're in no position to teach anyone anything until you've learned the lessons yourself

In the case of the criticizing wife, if you have been frustrated, argumentative and negative toward her behavior you're in no condition to start setting boundaries.

You'll need to slow down and reset yourself while gently bringing up the values you want for BOTH of you to start sharing.

The man in the video story figured this out early on and he stayed patient, clear and proud of how he handled himself. That was the only reason his wife eventually changed her critical behavior toward him.

I want you to become a NINJA at this!

This isn't a secret trick or even a "tool".

This is more than a mind set.

This is a LIFESTYLE of calmly knowing who you are, what you believe, what you want and how you're creating the life and relationship you want.

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What have you got to lose?

With love, brother,

Steve

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