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Hey brother,
Every relationship "expert" in the world thinks they have the secret sauce for making a happy, sexual relationship.
I think the truth is, that the "recipe" is pretty
complex.
It's full of ingredients that need to be measured and added in the right sequence. And timing is crucial because if you do the right thing at the wrong time everything goes haywire.
Then multiply this complexity by TWO.
Two people. Two sets of childhood baggage and insecurity. Two sets of expectations. Two perspectives on the world, marriage, money, parenting
and sex.
Then there are the two unique ways of communicating and expressing fear, sadness, hurt and disappointment.
And then there's the litany of "fix your marriage" tools you learn in counseling which sound like an endless list of "try this and try
that".
But the tools can't work if you're not mentally and emotionally prepared to use
them.
It feels like you're throwing darts just to see what sticks. You never seem to be on the same page.
It's exhausting and frustrating. Resentment builds by the minute.
The reason we coach only men is because we believe:
There is no such thing as a happy, healthy, secure, stable and sexual relationship without a happy, healthy, stable and secure man at the
helm.
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In every marriage more than a week old there are grounds for divorce. The trick is
to find and continue to find grounds for marriage. ~ Robert Anderson
I like quotes like this because they challenge our thinking. They remind us that each person has a choice.
They challenge our mindset and our daily intention.
When you're aware of your thinking and are deliberate with your intention your BEHAVIOR will directly follow in suit.
So...beware of your own habits of thinking and your chosen intentions.
They will create patterns of behavior that will either improve your relationship or kill it.
As you know by now I like to SIMPLIFY things to help you make changes quickly and effectively.
The TWO CRUCIAL KEYS I share in this video are the beginning points of a happy, sexual relationship.
These are the most important parts of the recipe.
And they are also the HARDEST parts.
These are like preheating the oven first to the right temperature.
If you don't get these two keys down pat there are no "tools" and no amount of communication, apology, flowers or make-up sex that will help you.
