“P.S. You’re not going to die. Here’s the white-hot truth: if you go bankrupt, you’ll still be okay. If you lose the gig, the lover, the house, you’ll still be okay. If you sing off-key, get beat by the competition, have your heart shattered, get fired…it’s not going
to kill you. Ask anyone who’s been through it.” ~ Danielle LaPorte
One of my favorite reassurances for anxious men is, "You're not only going to be okay...you're already okay but you can't see it right now."
It's the level of our THINKING that determines our level of "okayness" at any given moment.
Circumstances are just, well, circumstances. WE get to decided what meaning to give them and how we will respond to them.
And when we've been living our life in the microcosm of husband/father/provider everything looks scary. We don't have a larger concept of our life - our purpose - our mission.
Living small makes change look terrifying. And living out of integrity with your authentic self and your core value leads to dark places.
“If you trade your authenticity for safety, you may experience the following: anxiety, depression, eating disorders, addiction, rage, blame, resentment, and inexplicable grief.” ~ Brene Brown
I can't overstate the importance of having a mission that lights you up.
Something that allows you to express your deepest passions and zone of genius keeps you authentic. Feeling "lit up" is the experience of being totally aligned with your non-negotiable values and terms for living the life YOU want.
But don't worry about "finding" it immediately.
What if you simply made your
current MISSION a dedicated process of finding your mission?
That's probably a really great start for most of us.
And for many of the men in my community, that's exactly what they're doing. I've noticed that for each man new doors are opening. New ideas. New opportunities.
They are calmer, happier, more confident, more connected and unapologetically honest and vulnerable.
That's exactly what a mission can do for you.
If you're still "looking for your mission", I suggest getting involved with other mature, initiated men doing the same work.
I created this community as part of my mission and love to share with anyone who wants to play.
Maybe you'll decide to join my community, the Men's Roundtable. This is one "lit up" group of men meeting live, three times a month with Dan Dore and I.
Or maybe you'll just fill out our contact form and ask for a deep dive consultation with me, Dan or one of the wise, powerful men's coaches on my team.
My recommendation when it comes to starting your mission or finding your mission is this:
ANY decision is better than NO decision.
