Anxious Because Your Wife Is Detaching From Your Marriage?

Published: Sun, 06/11/23

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Hey brother,

We recently started having free live coaching sessions with guys like you to just gather the men, answer questions and give each other some brotherly support.

I ask that guys send questions in advance so Dan Dore and I can have some topics ready to address. The big topic last week was about "Limbo Land".

It's that time in a man's marriage where he feels shaky, nervous and totally uncertain about where the relationship is going or if it will even survive.

He feels in "limbo"...permanently.

The question was, "Can you give more more insight into what limbo land is, why it happens and what I can do about it?"

I decided to make this week's video about that question because it seems to be a popular one.

I came up with 5 key signs that you are probably in Limbo Land. If only one is true, you may just be entering it. If all 5 are true...no doubt you're in it up to your neck.

In the video I go into detail about:

1. The "I just don't know!" phase where every answer to any yes/no question is "I just don't know!"

2. The "I need you to give me time/space" or the "We'll just have to see" phase.

3. The "refusal to talk about feelings or your relationship" phase.

4. The "fiercely independent" phase

5. The "mixed messages" phase where she still talks about upcoming holidays and vacations and even slips in a few "I love you...but..." comments.

I'm Anxious My Wife Is Detaching From Our Marriage

Here's the cold hard truth about Limbo Land.

You think it's a place of chronic indecision and uncertainty seemingly created 100% by her. And you feel like you're the powerless victim.

The truth is that the feelings of being stuck in limbo are created inside your own head.

It's your belief that your sense of hope, well-being, happiness and long-term vitality is squarely in her hands.

But what if it's not? What if you had the power to think of this differently?

What if you created your own sense of certainty - independently from the outcome of this phase of your marriage?

And what would that even look like?

Of course you could just hand her divorce papers and be done with it. That's one kind of certainty some men create. But I want to suggest another to start with.

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Brother, you've got about 30-40 years ahead of you to live a happy, connected, joyful, meaningful and loving life...surrounded by friends and family who love being with you.

Do you believe that life is crushed just because your wife is going a little nutty right now?

Do you believe you can't make any decision and do anything that serves you now until she gives you a sign that you're okay?

Hint: You don't need anyone's permission to start living the life you want.

What if right now...at this instant...you simply decided, "Hey, I'm going to live a happy, connected, joyful, meaningful and loving life...surrounded by friends and family who love being with me."

That, my brother, is your secret key out of limbo land.

Yes, you must be outcome independent and detached from the result.

Yes, you must let go of you need to control and your need to know everything.

Yes, I know that sounds impossible to you right now. But I promise you this.

It's the quickest way to regain your self-respect and a modicum of mojo.

You'll start sleeping better and laughing more. You'll connect better with your kids and your friends and family. You'll be more effective at work.

Your wife may or may not notice. And who cares. That's not the point. (she'll notice, though)

But now you're being the man YOU want to be and the one she just might be willing to talk to again.

Suddenly the "cold hard truth" doesn't seem so bad, does it?

If you want to learn how to "Create A Happy, Connected, Joyful, Meaningful Life" then start by joining Dan & I at our Open Hearted Leader retreat in England in 3 weeks time.

Free: Go HERE to apply for a Free "Exit Limboland" coaching call to learn exactly how you can start changing things tomorrow.

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$497: How to Defuse the Divorce Bomb is a self-paced course with me, coach Tim Wade, and community of men learning how to lead when you've just heard, "I love you but I'm not in love with you" or "I want to separate or divorce."

As Teddy Roosevelt said:

“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.”

I simply LOVE doing this work with men because it lights up my life to watch you charge back into your life with a grin on your face and swagger in your step.

Lotta love, brother,

Steve

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