The Husband EVERY Wife Is Attracted To

Published: Wed, 06/07/23

Hey brother,

I say this about 20 times a week.

STAY IN YOUR LANE, BROTHER!

I say it to men who are stumbling into negativity, dark thoughts and unnecessary conflict.

But what does it mean?

It means to stop driving into the drama created by others.

It means to stop believing every bad day is a sign that something is wrong.

And when things are going great, don't get caught up in believing they will always be great.

Life is an experience of ups and downs...highs and lows.

But if you don't know where YOUR LANE is, you'll drive all over the freaking road feeling out of control...a victim of circumstances.

If you don't know where YOUR LANE is, you'll tend to drive in everybody else's lane...reacting to THEIR emotions and measuring yourself by THEIR moods and THEIR approval.

You must create a lane for yourself that is peaceful, calm and confident.

Your lane is a mindset that constantly reassures you that you're OKAY. And no matter what's going on around you, you're going to be okay.

Your lane is a set of personal beliefs and values that cause you to think more clearly, speak more honestly and act more boldly.

I talk more about it in this video.

Learning to stay in your lane is a constant process of self-awareness and self-correction. Your hands are always moving slightly on the wheel...keeping yourself in the correct lane.

The process requires the willingness and effort to learn. This means reading, talking, sharing and supporting other men. The process also requires you to accept help from others.

For example, one guy recently came to one of our retreats and sent me this:

"I feel the need to email you briefly, and thank you for the time I spent with you at the retreat. It came at just the right time for me, and offered such powerful insight, reassurance, honesty, education and ideas for action when I am feeling at my most powerless in my relationship, lost and with very low confidence. I’m at and the beginning of the journey and I see now the areas I need to work on in improving me as my focus, not improving my relationship with my partner. Also key was the advice on what to stop doing in my interactions with her, most of which were boxes ticked by me in terms of what I’m currently doing. Also the comments on fear, as clearly this is what’s driving a lot of my behaviour. Being around other men who are also experiencing challenges in their lives was incredibly powerful - why I've never done this before baffles me now!!"

If you want to learn how to start "staying in your lane", you may want to start with joining Dan & I in England in 3 weeks time.

Ready to start BEING a calm, happy man no matter what is happening right in front of you? Here are some options to get started right away...

The last few spots are nearly sold out for our UK retreat from June 29th - July 3rd, Dan & I would love to meet you in person: more details here

Free: Go HERE to apply for a Free "Attractive Husband" coaching call to learn exactly how you can start changing things tomorrow.

Free: Take Our Attractive Husband Self Assessment Here

$69 Monthly Subscription: Join Dan and I in the Men’s Roundtable which is our community of powerful, successful men learning and supporting each other to become leaders in their relationships. With 3 live 90 minute video calls every month, it's the most affordable coaching we offer. Try it for one month...what have you got to lose?

$497: How to Defuse the Divorce Bomb is a self-paced course with me, coach Tim Wade, and community of men learning how to lead when you've just heard, "I love you but I'm not in love with you" or "I want to separate or divorce."

As Teddy Roosevelt said:

“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.”

I simply LOVE doing this work with men because it lights up my life to watch you charge back into your life with a grin on your face and swagger in your step.

Lotta love, brother,

Steve

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Steven Horsmon

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