I Can't Relax Around My Wife, Why?

Published: Wed, 08/02/23

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Hey brother,

The summer holiday season can be brutal for everyone.

I don't need to list all the irregular crap couples have to endure throughout the season. You know about the stress of the expenses, expectations, travel and unruly relatives.

Many men cringe at all of the drama and don't know how to cope. It seems the safest route is to just follow orders and try to make everyone happy.

But the "safest" route of trying to "make your wife happy" is probably the most ineffective and aggravating energy you could possibly have.

You feel like you're treading on eggshells waiting for orders.

You find yourself apologizing and asking for permission or direction for making her more happy.

The dirty little secret you have is that you need her to be happy with you.

I want to offer you another mantra.

Instead of "If Momma Ain't Happy, Ain't Nobody Happy", try this on.

"If Daddy Ain't Happy He Needs Get His Shit Together Because Nobody Else Can Make Him Happy...and if He's Not Happy Then His Whole World Appears Unhappy and He Will Think His Life Sucks"

I explain this concept and HOW TO STAY IN YOUR LANE in this 4 minute video.

What if Daddy Ain't Happy?

I coach men about the idea of being the "emotional weatherman" for their family and for themselves.

This means YOU get to decide if the day is going to be emotionally "sunny", "partly cloudy", or "full of shit storms".

The critical life skill every man needs is to define his OWN emotional weather pattern. He does this consciously as he rolls out of bed every single day.

And he does this deliberately with HOW HE RESPONDS to the weather he sees in others.

He must "stay in his lane" if he wants to be a positive influence on anyone else.

And when he finds that some people are just having a "shit storm" day he knows that he doesn't need to have one too.

When the masculine emotional energy in your house is strong, confident, happy, consistent and predictable you will start to see AMAZING changes around you.

Others will want to be in that lane with you. You will be magnetic.

And you will start to see:

"If Daddy Doesn't Stay in His Lane He Will End Up in Someone Else's Lane and He Will Hate That."

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There is ONLY ONE WAY for your masculine emotional energy to become strong, confident, happy, consistent and predictable.

And it is NOT by seeking direction, approval and permission from "momma".

It happens when you proactively choose to spend time with men who are already driving in that lane.

It happens when you decide that lane is for you and nothing will keep you from getting there.

There are so many things to know about your own insecure triggers...your own anger...and you're own immature reactions. (I've driven in those lanes...no fun at all.)

There is so much to know about the emotional world of women and their incessant mind monkey chatter and internal shame triggers.

Once you start learning this stuff you will feel a rush of relief and competence in handling your own happiness.

I was going to put in a testimonial next, but 3 minutes ago a guy commented on one of my recent videos, he said...

Well said Steve. My wife started coming back to me just like you had said. Now good days and bad days sometimes, but your right. SO WHAT?!

What he has learned is that when he stays in his happy, positive, confident lane...everyone, including his wife, wants to be there too.

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We've created many options for you to get this knowledge and support so you can be consistent and really, really LIKE YOURSELF as you're doing the work.

The next step for you is to make a courageous, no nonsense decision to connect with me and my coaches to start 2020 off with a bang.

If you want to get serious in 2020 about becoming that man, we want to speak with you personally.

We want to spend at least an hour at first to hear your voice, learn about your dreams and coach you through some of the barriers in front of you.

On this call we can offer you immediate tips to help you feel calmer...cooler...and more relaxed and measured in your emotions.

We can give you details about the options you have to transform yourself and your intimate relationship.

At the end of the call we fully expect you to say what other men have said.

"Damn, this felt better than this last year of therapy! I can't believe someone really listened to me, understands exactly who I am, knows personally what I'm struggling with in life right now and gave me simple, practical advice on how to create the future I really want!".

How do you set up this call?

Simple.

Click HERE to schedule a free 90 minute "Find My Lane" coaching session with me, Dan or one of our certified coaches to discuss what's holding you back and how to start changing it today.

You're not alone brother. I promise.

Also....do you want to know where you stand in terms of being the masculine weatherman in your life & relationships?

We've created a 12-Point Great Man Scorecard that can help you SCORE YOURSELF on the journey from Good Guy to Great Man in 12 key areas including:

Sex

Productivity

Values

Emotions

Spirituality

Temperament

Health/Fitness

Money

Work

Mission

Women

Social Life

You can access this scorecard for free here.

Once you've done that, schedule a free coaching session with us to discuss your results.

No strings. No sales pitches. No timeshare presentation.

We're here to help you get what you really want from the next 20 years of your life.

And if you recognise that you lack a network of smart, initiated men in your life, try our group coaching options below:

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As Teddy Roosevelt said:

“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.”

With love, brother,

Steve

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