How Do I Get My Wife to WANT Me? (my answer may surprise you)

Published: Sun, 07/30/23

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Hey brother,

We get about 60 applications a month from men wanting to talk about their relationship issues. Guess what the #1 question is by far?

Yep.

"How do I get my wife to want me?"

There are varieties on this same theme.

How do I get her to want more sex?
How do I get her to stop spending time on her phone?
How do I get her to stop pulling away when I try to touch her?
How do I get her to initiate intimacy of ANY kind with me?

Have you ever asked any of those questions?

Well then, let's dive into it, shall we?

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There's a dirty little secret women have and they will not tell you about it. Here it is.

The very instant a women feels like you are trying to GET HER to do something...she will automatically do the exact opposite.

What do I mean by GET HER to do something?

I'm talking about that coy, subversive, covert, anxious, needy energy of manipulating or tricking her to do (or BE) something you want.

This energy is normally caused by a chronic level of thinking about how lonely, rejected, horny, dissatisfied and/or disappointed you are. (fyi, porn is one of the leading causes of that thinking)

If you are trying the GET HER to connect with you, your energy is coming from a negative feeling...a place of scarcity or lack...and she can smell it a mile away.

You may say, "I'm not covert about it...I'm just directly asking her for sex?!"

There's a difference between inviting or inspiring her to share intimacy with you and simply "solving a problem".

Again, she knows the difference between a healthy, happy, confident man who is offering her a wonderful time...and an impatient, disappointed man who simply wants to solve his problem.

In this video, I offer you an alternative mindset to help you stay in the healthy, happy, confident man lane.

This is the only man she really WANTS.

If You Don't Think She Will...She Won't

As I mentioned in the video, it is YOUR MINDSET that has the most impact on you getting what you want.

If your "horse" detects an ounce of doubt, a smidgen of fear, a speck of urgency or a MOLECULE is frustration...you've lost.

You're no longer a leader to her. You're suspicious source of pressure or fear.

Sorry, brother. Them's the cards we've ALL been dealt.

Our only choice is to find that place of unbridled swagger, personal peace and self-satisfaction before you try to lead her anywhere.

A leader knows who he is. He is fully aware of his own value as a man and how he wants to lead those he loves.

A leader knows how to make an invitation without being scary.

He knows how to ASK for something that feels like a partnership instead of a trick.

A good leader always believes in others more than they might believe in themselves in the moment. He believes she CAN and she WILL because he truly sees her strength and courage. He knows that if he doesn't think she will...she won't!

A strong leader notices the "try" when others are unsure or afraid. He stops the pressure after seeing the softest "YES" and he always knows there is another day.

A loving leader is naturally patient and understanding because he is able to give himself that same grace.

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Yeah, I know some of this sounds of bit lofty and maybe out of your reach.

You may be thinking, "Damn, does it really have to be that HARD?"

It's really some of the simplest concepts you've ever learned!

It's the epitome of "LESS IS MORE".

And when you learn this mindset and these skills, you'll find out that you've been trying way too hard. It's liberating as hell.

Here's how a man from our May retreat put it:

"With the opening, introductory question from Steve and Tim at the Retreat, it was clear that bringing one's vulnerability and truth was the name of the game. It was just what I was hoping and looking for even though I knew I was gonna have to push through insecurities. A safe, judgement-free space to connect with real men on a real level about real topics and issues. The ranch is an ideal setting given its vibe and surroundings, and Steve and Tim have this dialed in by striking a great balance between quantity of men attending, instruction, group discussion, individual reflections, and horse work. It was an unforgettable experience."

Here's the bottom line.

Tim Wade and I love this retreat! We love watching men connect and cure themselves of the stress, fear and frustration that is messing up their lives.

We want to share a drink around a fire with you. We want to climb a mountain on horseback with you.

We want you to want this for yourself.

Read the information page carefully. Look at the pics.

Hit reply now to ask me a question and I'll will reply right away.

Go to The Confident Man Ranch Retreat page to learn more and, if you're ready, put a $500 deposit down to save your spot.

Lotta love, brother,

Steve

P.S. There's a really good reason we use horses at the Confident Man Ranch Retreat.

If you can understand a horse, you'll understand your woman. Women have a legendary connection with the spirit and vulnerability of horses. It's why little girls are magnetically drawn to them.

And if YOU can tap into this wisdom, you will achieve a "super power" of confidence and insight that will change your relationship forever.

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550 Drake Ranch Rd., Livermore, CO 80536, USA

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