Is Your Marriage Lacking Passion & Fun?

Published: Sun, 07/09/23

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Hey brother,

Have you ever had that "not so fresh" feeling?

I'm not referring to your hygiene. I'm talking about your overall mood, energy level and attitude.

I'm talking about those times when you feel almost numb or FLAT. You're neither high nor low. You're stuck between first gear and reverse. The engine is running but you're not going anywhere. And you're concerned about that.

This can happen at any time - good times or bad.

I'm usually talking about a guy whose marriage is stuck in limbo and he's anxious because things aren't going anywhere. But it also happens to men who have started making improvements.

What should you do when this happens?

Let me make it easy for you.

Do nothing. That's right. Don't try to DO anything.

Think of it like the space between your heartbeats. It's there for a reason. Your heart isn't a constant pressure pump. There's time between the "lub-dubs" for recovery.

For all you medical experts (big bro) just humor me. It's a metaphor for Pete's sake.

What if that space between your life's high and low points is an engineered space meant to give you time to recover, rest, think, reset, learn and grow?

What if you actually don't need to figure anything out or do anything or worry about crap?

Worrying is like sitting in a rocking chair. It gives you something to do but it doesn't get you anywhere. ~English Proverb

I've discovered an uncomfortable truth about myself and most of the men I work with.

We are wired for REACTION. We seem to be programmed for detecting trouble.

Then we give it an identity (the "Problem"). Then we analyze it to death with amazing speed and intensity. And then we get on with FIXING it. And if people are involved, dammit, we will FIX THEM TOO!

Advanced Mojo Management Mastery

An author named Mark Manson has become famous for his book and course called "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck". I highly recommend it. It's not about apathy. And it's not about detaching from life.

It's a smart look at your unique mental capacity to CHOOSE what you will care about and that which you will not. It's about taking responsibility for choosing your response to problems and choosing a path of action that suits YOU.

My version of Advanced Mojo Management Mastery is similar. I teach men how to choose a response and a path that quickly builds clarity of values, strength of character and confident masculine presence.

However, I've learned we typically avoid learning this stuff until a MASSIVE problem (sexless marriage or divorce...) smacks us in the head and puts us in search of answers.

We're stuck in this limbo land of uncertainty feeling flat, disconnected and bewildered.

Perfect! This is the space between the heart beats of your life. You're somewhere between the high of joyous certainty and the low of tumultuous uncertainty.

This is your calling. This is your time to reset - recalibrate - learn - and grow.

You don't need to "fix" anything or anyone.

You just need to be a man who seizes this time to change yourself. After all...

"The only way a change in your circumstances will occur is if something new comes into your life or something new comes out of you."
~ B. Burchard

So here's a video I made a while back where I give you a real life example of what I'm talking about:

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As Teddy Roosevelt said:

“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.”

With love, brother,

Steve

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Steven Horsmon

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