Does Your Confidence Disappear Around Your Wife?

Published: Mon, 06/26/23

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Hey brother,

Even though the men I work with are rock stars in the domain of their chosen profession, they can't say the same when they walk through the door of their own home.

Why?

Because even though they've mastered the skills, tactics, knowledge and strategies of excelling at work...they feel like a wet noodle in the scary relationship realm of vulnerability, intimacy, marriage and sex.

They have supreme confidence in what they know and what they do.

But ONLY there.

And that's the problem.

If you only have what I call Competency Based Confidence the only time you will feel confident (aka. calm, cool, collected) is WHEN YOU'RE DOING THOSE THINGS.

This may explain why many men spend a lot of time at work. It's where they feel most comfortable - most acknowledged and most appreciated.

They get their sense of personal confidence and well-being only from what they are good at.

Hmmmm...I think you're starting to get my point.

Watch this video below about the difference between Competency Based Confidence and Spiritually Based Confidence. Then come back to the email...

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“Confidence is something that ought to transcend what we know and what we do.” ~ Barbara DeAngelis

As you heard me explain in the video, there is ANOTHER type of confidence that is entirely different from competency based confidence.

It's called spiritual confidence.

This is what you need in the areas of your life where skill, knowledge and talent don't count for much.

In the book, "Confidence: Finding It and Living It", Barbara DeAngelis does a beautiful job of explaining the OTHER type of confidence.

“Ultimately, spiritual confidence is a quiet, gentle sense of peace. It fills your heart and nurtures your spirit. It allows you to travel your path knowing that you are on the right road, and trusting that wherever you are is just where you need to be.”

Do you know anyone in your life who seems to have that?

Yeah, most people don't. It's a rare type of confidence that doesn't require demonstrated talent, knowledge or authority.

It's a chosen belief system that tells you that you're actually okay...just as you are right now. You're bullet-proof to the judgments of others and their disapproval.

From this place you can't be "hurt, insulted, controlled, offended or emasculated." You're no longer a victim of external input.

You've got a chosen frame of mind or a "lane" you stay in that supports the truth about your own well-being. You're valuable, lovable and significant EVEN IF someone else is acting like you're not.

This is the secret power we all really want.

It's not a tube of Whoop-Ass.

It's secret tube of mojo.

Calm, cool, collected, self-assured well-being.

Some men reading this will get it right off the bat. Just reading the description of spiritual confidence and why it's important will cause a serious shift in their thinking which will change their life starting tonight.

Other guys (like me) need more help. And this help can only come from other initiated men who have ALREADY figured it out.

This is why we've created many ways for you to get involved in our community and start building your own foundation of confidence.

You might decide it's time to attack it head on and take one of the LAST spots in the June 29th - July 3rd, 2023 Open Hearted Leader Retreat in England. Dan & I personally want to share a beer, some stories, music and laughter with you around a fire. This is the FASTEST way to build a solid sense of confidence in yourself as well as make some lifelong friends - the kind of friends most of us are seriously lacking (and kind of don't believe are possible for us).

Or join us in the Goodguys2Greatmen Men's Live Coaching Roundtable. Click that link for more information. This is an honest, trusting, respectful and powerful group of men who meet live, three times a month with Dan and I.

We are waiting for you to join us!

Or go HERE to apply for a Free "Secret Tube of MOJO" coaching call to learn exactly how you can start changing things tomorrow.

If you want confidence that no-one else can take away from you, this is the place for you.

As Teddy Roosevelt said:

“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.”

Lotta love, brother,

Steve & Dan

P.S. Don't forget our powerful, effective and affordable online course for men facing the possibility of divorce or separation. Check out HowtoDefusetheDivorceBomb free trial. Having brothers who've been through what you're facing is incredibly powerful.

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Steven Horsmon

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