Hey brother,
Has this kind of mind boggling conversation ever happened to you?
Typically, it’s with a woman…but I see it with men all the time too.
“Hey, I’ve got a question.”
“What is it?”
“The other day I was driving down that road behind the lake and HUGE mountain lion ran right in front of me! He was beautiful, but scary, because he stopped on the side of the road and looked me right in the eye. Gave me chills. I read that a mountain lion’s top speed is like 40-50 mph. And a horse is like 25-30 mph. It’s amazing we don’t hear more about horse attacks. Anyway, when I was driving I hit a patch of horrible
washboards. I don’t know why they can’t maintain that road better. It’s like they fix it one day and the next day it's horrible again. It makes you wonder why people pay taxes. Anyway, what was I saying?”
“You said you had a question.”
“Oh yeah. The front end on my car is making loud a rattling noise. Could you take a look at it?”
“Sure.”
Why Do People Do This?
I had a speaking coach tell me back in 1993 that I was a
“3-dimensional thinker” when I spoke in front of a group. He meant I didn’t have a clear picture of what I wanted to say, therefore, every thought led me to another thought that became disconnected from the point I was trying to get across.
And I’ve been working on this ever since.
Every time I write an email or make a video I have to remind myself, “Get to the fucking point, Steve!”
It requires me to focus on ONE THING that matters most when communicating. In fact it's the one thing that matters most when I'm thinking, planning, feeling or
doing anything.
What is it?
Clarity.
Watch this video to hear why I believe CLARITY must come first.