The Two Most Powerful Coaching Words I Know

Published: Sun, 03/05/23

Hey brother,

I've learned a very simple lesson about men after sending you over 400 newsletters and videos.

My audience tends to read emails and watch videos with ONE VERY SPECIFIC DESIRE in mind.

And that desire is to hear something or learn something that gives them a very specific feeling they are searching for.

Unlike YouTube searches on "How to Unstick a Garbage Disposal", I'm betting you read my emails and watch videos in order to solve a different kind of problem.

It's the same problem I wanted to fix when I started on this journey ten years ago.

The problem was this:

Things were not "okay" in my marriage. Nothing felt "okay" in my head. I was definitely not feeling "okay" in my heart or my stomach. And it was obvious that my wife was not "okay" either.

What I wanted more than anything in the world was to feel OKAY!

And that leads us to the TWO MOST POWERFUL WORDS I've discovered when coaching men. These two words have brought more tears than any other coaching I've given.

You're okay.

You're okay. You're going to be okay. You'll always BE okay.

And even 10 minutes from now when this brief experience of believing you are okay is over...you're still okay.

There is something so powerful about being told we are okay and that we will BE okay...no matter what.

If we are spending most of our waking hours feeling "NOT okay", just those two words of reassurance can make a grown man cry.

That's because we want more than anything for EVERYTHING to be okay. Watch this video where I'm convincing myself I'm okay...even after my positive COVID test today!

The Two Most Powerful Coaching Words I Know

During a coaching session with a man who is experiencing prolonged anxiety, sadness or frustration, we will often have this conversation.

"We've talked for about 45 minutes now and you seem a lot calmer than when we started. How are you feeling right now...at this moment."

"Oh, right now I think I'm feeling okay."

"Why is that do you think?"

"Well, just talking through this and having you listen helps. I'm also realizing that so much of this is out of my control which oddly makes me feel better."

"So...you're okay right now."

"Yeah."

"Will you be okay 60 seconds from now?"

"Umm...yeah...I think so."

"What about 10 minutes from now...will you be okay?"

"Uhhh....probably."

"What about tomorrow morning...will you feel okay then?"

"Jeez...now that I don't know. Probably not."

And that's the problem.

In one moment we can THINK we're okay based on a momentary thought or belief which gives us a momentary feeling of "okayness".

And we THINK we have no control over that thinking.

Therefore, the further we get from NOW, the more uncertainty we feel in our ability to THINK the same thoughts. We start PROJECTING our feelings into the future.

And we conclude that tomorrow morning may just possibly suck as badly as all previous mornings.

When you learn how to THINK ABOUT YOUR THOUGHTS you immediately realize that a calm sense of peace and "okayness" is always one thought away.

You actually have all the power you need to BE OKAY.

And that is exactly what Goodguys2Greatmen helps you do in every single aspect of your life.

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As Teddy Roosevelt said:
“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.”

I simply LOVE doing this work with men because it lights up my life to watch you charge back into your life with a grin on your face and swagger in your step.

You're okay, brother,

Steve

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