Stop Being Needy & Start Oozing Confidence

Published: Tue, 05/16/23

Hey brother,

The mountain lion speaks to me because he's the perfect metaphor for cool, calm, confident masculinity.

And he achieves this not by DOING anything in particular...he just IS.

This is what makes him so regal - so magnetic - so attractive.

It's the mystery of his fierce energy and his quiet resolve. He's focused and engaged while detached and relaxed at the same time.

He seems entirely self-satisfied and unrattled by drama.

They say "the lion doesn't turn around when the small dog barks".

And a Nigerian proverb says "The roaring lion kills no prey." He doesn't over-react. He speaks less and listens more. He responds calmly and does only what is needed.

Here's my annual summer video from the hummingbird feeder to explain more.

Stop Being Needy & Start Oozing Confidence

How do you become naturally confident and attractive like a mountain lion?

First of all you have to become aware of what is NOT natural.

It is NOT natural for you to be in a state of anxiety, fear or defensiveness.

It is NOT natural for you to feel out of control and uncertain.

Sure, those natural emotions we may experience from time to time.

But they are NOT meant to be your default mode. Once you recognize yourself in those states, you can choose to change.

What do you BELIEVE to be your natural default mode?

I believe your natural state is well-being. Your default mode is self-confidence and clarity of purpose. It's a state of being OKAY at any given moment.

What if you believed that too?

You and I weren't born mountain lions, but we can simply decide that is who we are meant to be and who we SHALL be.

You are who you say you are.

What have you been telling yourself lately about who you are?

Seriously, answer that. Hit reply and tell me what you've been thinking about yourself. Then tell me what you would rather be thinking.

This is one of many examples of challenges and exercises we explore in coaching.

And when you do this with other smart men like yourself, you start seeing things you've never seen. You feel shifts you've never felt.

And you accelerate down a path of transformation so powerful there ain't no going back.

Why?

Because you can never "unsee or unlearn" what you've learned when your brain flips a switch.

Ready to change your life? Here are some options to get started right now:

Join Dan and I in the beautiful English countryside for our UK retreat, more details here

Free: Go HERE to apply for a Free "Clooney Confidence" coaching call to learn exactly how you can start changing things tomorrow.

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As Teddy Roosevelt said:

“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.”

I simply LOVE doing this work with men because it lights up my life to watch you charge back into your life with a grin on your face and swagger in your step.

Lotta love, brother,

Steve

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