The problem with the question, "What if it doesn't work?" is this.
When you decide to become more
confident, calmer, clearer and grounded in your own sense of value and well-being...there is nothing that needs to "work".
That IS the work. The measure of your work is not in the
outcome of your marriage, her desire for you or any other EXTERNAL result over which you have no control.
You decide to become this man because it's important to you no
matter what.
And here's the other thing we don't get at
first.
There is NO WAY the older version of you stands a chance of
attracting her back into a relationship. Panic, pleading, promising, pressuring and demanding will only make things worse.
The reality is that your future is
uncertain.
But you can create certainty in how you respond and how you choose
to THINK about this whole process.
And your first thought needs to be:
"F*ck this. I'm going to become the very best, strongest and most attractive version of myself no matter what. I want that for me regardless of the outcome."
Now THAT attitude will serve you well. I guarantee it.
What happens when you read that? What do you FEEL right after
saying that out loud?
It's liberating. The knot in your gut loosen just a
touch.
It's empowering.
You begin to see that even in the discomfort of uncertainty and an unpredictable outcome in your marriage...you get to create your own certainty.
When you finally get on this track, your inner peace returns and
your mojo shoots up and to the right.
