Wife Avoids Intimacy Do You Know Why?

Published: Fri, 04/07/23

Hey brother,

One way to get unconditional love and affection and to be given god-like status is to pay for it.

There are women who make a very good living of it. They will forgive you all of your misgivings, ignore all of your bad habits and will give you everything you want without argument or hesitation.

And, hey, I don't judge you if you go that route. Another way to get unconditional love is to get a dog. They too are incredibly devoted and forgiving. As a predator, they don't operate from fear, distrust and suspicion.

But the women in your real relationships are different, aren't they? If you want a real relationship with a woman, there's more work to do. If you want easy affection, natural attraction and intimate connection...you have to be more mindful of WHO you are being and HOW you are being.

Women seem to have this unspoken sensitivity to who we are being and how we are treating them. They sometimes claim we can "make them feel" things and go so far as to believe that we can "make them happy".

I don't believe anyone has the power to "make" someone else happy. Happiness always has been and always will be an "inside job".

However, I do believe that two people in a relationship can DEFINITELY create an environment that is either ripe for love and affection -OR- an environment that is ripe for fear, distrust and suspicion.

As you know, I teach men their part in being MINDFUL and AWARE of how they are BEING as a man.

I emphasize that being who you want to be on YOUR terms - according to YOUR standards is your top priority.

Why? Because if the only reason you choose to become mindful and aware of how you are being is to be loved...you're pretty much screwed in life.

You'll be operating from insecurity and fear. You will feel desperate, needy and constantly on the look-out for respect and approval from others.

You will never feel more at peace (and have LESS DRAMA) as when you develop a crystal clear sense of self-confidence and learn to approve of your own bad self.

Watch this video for more details.

How do I earn love and affection?

The only way to earn love and affection with a woman is to CONSISTENTLY operate in a way she can trust and feel drawn to.

Love and affection are born from an environment of emotional safety and attraction to how you are being.

You are the Master and Commander of who you are being. You get to make the rules. You get to set the tone and defend the standards of how you want to show up.

In the video, I give you 3 things to be mindful of:

1. Outward expressions of anger

2. Inward expressions of anger

3. Defensiveness

These 3 things are the FIRST level of mindfulness I recommend if you want to create a safer, more affectionate environment.

It takes awareness of HOW you are being and an intentional effort to change.

You have to want to change for YOU and you alone. Even if you were stranded on an island, you have to want to live in the skin of a man YOU are proud of.

And you'll feel better. When we're honest, we will admit that feeling angry, afraid and defensive is a crappy way to live.

I want you to want more for yourself.

And when you do this work for yourself, it immediately starts changing the environment in your relationship.

That's when the good stuff finally happens.

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Lotta love, brother,

Steve

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