Hey brother,

Guess what men report as their #1 issue when they are staring into the face of a pending separation or divorce.

If your wife has become cold, distant, detached, defensive or constantly indifferent, you already know what it is.

It's ANXIETY.

In this context, the anxiety feels like a knotted, nauseous, agitated feeling of uncertainty that never seems to stop. 

It takes our emotions from intense sadness to intense fear and, often, uncontrolled anger.  Can't eat.  Can't sleep.

It sucks.

And the reason it sucks is because your thinking is gripped by the notion that you have ZERO CONTROL and ZERO INFLUENCE over the alleged source of the anxiety - your wife and her feelings.

This is where some serious coaching is required.  

I know you think the anxiety is 100% caused by HER and the wishy-washy uncertainty she's created in your life.

But the key to managing your anxiety is making the choice to change the way you're thinking about your loss of "control".

Watch this video, then keep reading. (That's Jace with his anxious dog face)

The Keys to Eliminating Your Marital Anxiety

As I mentioned in the video, anxiety is usually caused by a few things:

•  A perceived loss of control over your circumstances and emotions
• A loss of connection to meaningful relationships and a sense of belonging
• A loss of connection to clear and meaningful values
• A loss of connection to your sense of self-respect and confidence
• A loss of connection to a story of a safe and happy future

Notice that all of those are in your control.

You may THINK they are out of your control.

You may THINK you have no choices and no power.

And you may THINK the ONLY possible solution to your anxiety is to engineer the ONE AND ONLY outcome that will satisfy you.

The bad news is outcomes have ALWAYS BEEN OUT OF YOUR CONTROL.  

We fool ourselves into thinking that certainty is the source of peace and well-being.  That's never been true. And you must liberate yourself from requiring certainty to keep you safe and happy.

The good news is there is a proven path to regaining control of your thinking and your emotions.

• You can begin to OWN your story of the future no matter what happens.
• You can regain the self-respect and confidence you may have had before your thinking got polluted.
• And you must begin to declare a new, empowering set of values and personal boundaries that give you a sense of autonomy and control over your responses to the things you don't control.

This "proven path" is the Goodguys2Greatmen Masculine Confidence coaching method.  It's the foundation of all of our programs, retreats and courses.

Many times we help you reconnect and reinvent your relationship. A version 2.0 of you can lead the way to a version 2.0 of your marriage.

And in every case we help you reconnect and reinvent yourself, your values, your confidence and self-respect.

You learn to lead yourself and your relationship to a place that wasn't possible when you were anxious.

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