By “honor”, I am talking about a woman’s feelings of safety/security, respect, and ATTRACTION. She desires to be in his company. She wants to feel safety in the strength of his conviction and the adventure in his unalterable passions.

Can she also have her own strong values, purpose, and passions?

Of course she can. She must. It is THAT about her which makes her the desirable, high quality women you noticed in the first place. This IS the woman you’re looking for, I assume.

She has her own standards and knows exactly what she is attracted to.

She finds irresistible the man who makes his values, purpose, and passions #1 without compromise, discussion, or negotiation.

She knows beyond a doubt that it is only THIS man who has the masculine strength to confidently face her feminine fire without flinching. No lesser man will do.

It is only through his crystal clear path that he is able to not only satisfy but, but drench her with unconditional love. His passion for her is not tempered by her emotions. His ability to give to her is not governed by fear of rejection.

The only thing he has to lose is a woman who chooses not to accept him and his purpose.

There is no fear in losing people who do not want to be with him and his path forward.

He knows without a doubt he is very much the PRIZE she thinks she is for him.

In my experience in talking with women, one pattern reveals itself constantly.

When it comes to both INITIAL attraction and SUSTAINING attraction for men, they talk about the tension of “polarity” between the feminine and masculine energy. What’s that mean?

The best way to understand sexual polarity and attraction is to LISTEN to how women talk about it.

“I feel safer in letting my feminine energy out and being vulnerable to a strong masculine man who can handle it.”

“I really respect a guy who is on fire about something and it makes ME excited”

“I am so turned on by the confidence in a guy that makes me feel desired, not needed like a little boy might”

“He won’t take charge of anything anymore. I hate to admit that when I feel a confident, loving man lead me I get horny. When he won’t – I don’t.”

You can debate all day long whether a woman “should” feel like this or not. You can argue about equality, mutuality, gender stereotypes until the cows come home.

In the end, there she sits. Feeling what she feels. They are HER emotions. Not yours. They are not up for judgment or debate.

So there she sits. Wondering why men have not yet figured this out.

These women consistently rank Safety/Security and Love/Connection at the top of their needs in relationship. 

What do they believe is needed to achieve their desire?

They sometimes answer with an embarrassed whisper. Sometimes they are strong and unapologetic in their desire. Sometimes they are downright angry to admit what their heart is telling them.

They want to feel the safety of an emotionally strong man. They want to feel the connection with a man who stands with confidence in his values, purpose, and passions yet openly shares his vulnerability.

He is emotionally available, but not needy. He knows choosing to meet her needs does not subjugate his. He knows where he is going and why.

He will not only stand up TO her, he will stand up WITH her and FOR her.

His attractiveness is not in his physique or appearance as much as it is in his unwavering strength, conviction and ability to give her the polarity she desires.

It his insistence on being THIS man first which draws her attention and desire to be by his side. She isn’t #2. If she belongs with this man, she knows that she is ALSO #1.